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New - Some Questions
| Sat, 04-29-2006 - 2:52pm |
I just recently started having sex for the first time - I'm not a teenager either, I'm in my mid-20s and my bf is older, so this is really stressful because he is way more experienced.. My questions..
When we are in missionary position, what do you do? I don't just want to lay there. I always have my arms around him, but what do you do??
He says he wants to try WOT. I am WAY to self conscious for this. I am sooo self conscious of my body and the fact that I won't know what I'm doing. I don't want to tell him I won't do it but I am really uncomfortable with it...
Please help. Thanks.

Missionary, move with him, meet his thrusts, grab his butt, his shoulders, his back, kiss him, wrap your legs around his waist, put your legs up over his shoulders, there are a lot of things for you to do besides just laying there.'
Why are you self-conscious about your body with him?
Well, in the missionary position, there's not much you CAN do....but your hands are free, and you can touch him anywhere.....his face, his chest, his arms, etc. You can look him in the eyes. You can smile, if he's close enough you can kiss him.
Guess what, all of his "experience" means absolutely nothing......every new partner is a new learning experience.
If you're going to be in a sexual relationship, then you need to forget about being self concious. When you're intimate, that goes out the door....and you do whatever you want or need to do, and enjoy what you're doing, not start wondering what he's thinking. You can be SURE he's not worried about what YOU might be thinking about.
WOT is like anything else. You try it, you figure out what is best and easy for you to do, and you do it. It takes some trying to figure it out.....but doesn't everything worthwhile? Hint: Don't squat on your heels.....don't try to bounce up and down like a rabbit because your legs will give out in a minute or two....that's for HIM to do when he's on top. Straddle him in a kneeling position, get comfortable, balance yourself with your hands on your thighs....and just move slowly, either in a hip thrusting motion, or a circular motion. It will get easier every time you do it, and eventually, if you're like most women, you will LOVE it, and want to be up there all the time. You're getting clitoral stimulation by rubbing against him...and that's a good way to have an orgasm. (your real sexual organ is your clitoris, NOT your vagina, and that's how most women have orgasms!)
For more info on your body and how it works go to www.the-clitoris.com
Well i understand somewhat of what you mean since i not so long ago had sex. I'm 20 now and did it for the first time when i was 18. The position i mostly prefer is missionary and what i normally do is kiss on his neck or his shoulders since you cant really do much when he's on top of you. Rubbing on his back and kissing anywhere you can find is the best bet. You can even switch it up sometimes and right in the middle of him being on top of you turn him over so can be on top of him. The best is to just explore different positions if you want instead of staying in the same one.
What exactly is a WOT?? It's normal for women to be self-consious about thier bodies b/c i was the same way too. I found that there is no reason to be. I care more about how my b/f would react with my body naked, so i just asked my b/f and he said he loved it. that gave me at little confidence and to love my body too in front of him. If you feel that your not comfortable with doing certain things, just tell him how you feel. dont do something your not comfortable with, just wait until your ready. If you feel you want to do it even if your uncomfortable is just bite the bullet and go for it. maybe you'll like it, maybe you wont. Hope this all helps.
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