New territory: bad sex... really BAD
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| Tue, 07-08-2008 - 6:40pm |
Wow, i dont even know where to begin. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half. I love him to death, there's just one tiny problem. . . the sex. I'll be straight up honest- its bad.
I don't know if its him, me, or a combo of the two, but I need some help!! ASAP!
He is a bit overweight, and he is not very experienced. he likes to do the same position EVERY TIME.. one which does not do a whole lot for me. his being overweight limits us to positons we can comfortably try, so i always end up on top doing all the work. I have tried talking to him but it never seems to work. and i don't want to sound too harsh because he is pretty sensitive. But he doesn't do a whole lot of anything. no oral, no foreplay, no kissing... nothing. and I have tried to lead by example but its just not working!!
PLEASE if you have any suggestions let me know!! I am suffering like crazy here! lol.. thank you!!

If you are not sexually compatible then the relationship will be difficult to maintain and thrive if it lasts at all.
You can try getting some porn and when the movie is playing let him know what you find arousing about what the guy is doing to the woman.
Its not that he doesnt try, i think he's just clueless. And I've tried my hardest to clue him in, but for some reason its just not clicking. And as far as the compatibility thing.. i think we are compatible. we are both very attracted to each other and get along very well. I think its just A) the inexperience and B) his weight.
But i've gotta do SOMETHING. lol.. i just dont know what!
First, put him on a diet and exercise program.
OMG what a great reply!
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Welcome to the board, sunshingirl802.
What types of things have you done to "lead by example"? After 1 1/2 years, it doesn't sound like he's putting effort into changing anything, which is worrisome. Maybe to get things kick started, you could suggest something in a playful manner. Doing things like putting things each of you would like to do into a jar, and pulling from the jar one night a week and trying out whatever is on that slip.
If he finds that he enjoys the different activities, he might start being more creative on his own.
what is his personality like? is he a worrier?
some guys are just very self-conscious and he may also be due to his weight and are very shy about trying anything new ..
maybe he doesn't see himself as a very sexual person to begin with, but he may also be worried about looking foolish, doing something new the
>>Good sex in a relationship is as necessary as the air you breathe.......you can't last long without either of them.