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| Wed, 04-26-2006 - 11:57pm |
Alright this is an awkward question but I am hoping for a some good suggestions. My boyfriend and I have been dating for three months. He was a virgin when I met him and well I wasn't infact I have had a couple of years of experiance and enjoy sex very much. The awkward part is that he always wants to use condoms which is safe and I am glad for it I know I'm clean, I know he is but there is a huge risk of pregnancy and neither one of us is ready for that. So back to the problem, I have NEVER not been able to get the job done and this is no exception but it seems because of the condom his sensitivity is so far decreased that he gets fairly close but doesn't seem to be able to climax during sex. Normally when I get tired I have to finish him off. Now really I don't mind this too much but I am just wondering if there is any suggestions as to how I (we) can make it happen during intercourse?
Any suggestions??
Thank you
Darlin

You have no control over his problem with condoms, or his finish. This isn't a "job" that you get "done", with him, or anyone else. They control themselves, just as you control yourself.
If he's got a problem with condoms, then maybe you should get on some kind of birth control, and then he won't have to use them. It might also be simply that he's new to sex, and he's nervous! It might have nothing to do with the condoms.
If he can't finish, then do whatever needs to be done, don't make a big deal out of it, and when he learns to relax.....he'll be fine.
As Dakine said, you can't get the job done for him, it's up to him if he has an orgasm or not.