Newly separated, just saw male strippers

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Registered: 10-02-2005
Newly separated, just saw male strippers
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Sun, 10-02-2005 - 2:12am

I couldn't think of who to tell this to, and I figured you ladies would give me your honest advice/opinions without being too judgemental. I'm separated, and almost divorced. I'm 37 years old, and have only been with a few men sexually in my life, so I'm pretty inexperienced. I know this story probably sounds pretty stupid, but please bear with me. I'm new to this.

I recently went to a girlfriend's house for a divorce party my friends were having for me. It was a total blast. Never knew I could have so much fun. Being married so long to a really jealous jerk, I've never been the type to lust after men physically. However, my sister hired two male strippers. I've heard the stories about how they're all gay, etc. Well, absolutely not. These studs were the most incredible hunks I've ever seen, and they had great personalities besides. They were so sweet to me when they found out I'm getting divorced. Anyway, I couldn't believe how much I was lusting after these studs. They were both tall, rock hard bodies, amazing chests and abs, and tight firm butts. I also couldn't believe that they stripped down COMPLETELY nude. At that point, my jaw almost hit the ground. They were both HUNG like gigantic horses. I was never one to give the "size" issue much thought, but I was just stunned (and I'll admit, intrigued) by the size of the meat hanging between their legs, and swaying back and forth as they walked (sorry if I'm being too explicit) They then had me come into the middle of the floor, and proceeded to sandwich me in between them, kiss me, and dry hump me until I literally almost came in my pants. I was stroking both of them at once. I kind of felt a little guilty doing that, but I can't believe how much fun it was. They both had another show to go to later, but I got their phone numbers.

So, honestly ladies, a few questions:

- Please tell me about one of your wildest stories with male strippers (so I don't
feel like a total slut)

- Whats the raunchiest thing you or your friends ever did with male strippers?

- Of course I'd be totally safe, but all I can think about is having both of them
at once. I've never done anything like that EVER (I nicknamed my husband "Mr.
Missionary" lol), and I'm fantasizing about being on all fours between them.
What should I do?

- Is it abnormal for a woman to fantasize so much about having sex with men who
have huge, thick penises? Of course technique is very important, but I never
quite believed that "size doesn't matter" saying.

Thanks for your input. Again, if I ever did anything, I'd be totally safe, and it would just be a quick fling. I really feel better getting this off my chest. Please let me know what you think.

Megan


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Registered: 05-01-2003
Sun, 10-02-2005 - 4:21pm

I wish I had had a sister who had done something like that for me when I was newly single. One of the things about no longer having a husband is that you no longer have those restraints from the past, so it is natural to explore, as well as to allow your imagination to have its way.

I don't want you to feel like a slut, because its unlikely that you are one, but I have never had that much experience of male strippers. I do, however, get a lot of pleasure from seeing shapely men shed their clothes, and your description of the way a man's package joggles is awesome.

Just let your fantasies ooze out, don't inhibit them. Who knows, sometime they may come to pass. All of us have different tastes, and whil it is not abnormal for a woman to fantasize so much about having sex with men who have huge, thick penises, we all have different tastes. Personally, my preference is for men with slender penises, and so much the better if they have a slight upward curve in them!

Hugs, Elaine

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Registered: 08-06-2004
Sun, 10-02-2005 - 6:06pm

I agree wholeheartedly with Elaine!

You are now a newly single woman, You are also at an age where you sex drive should be in pretty dang good shape!!! Its normal and wonderful that you are having these erotic fantasys and ready to start exploring now that your apparently unfulfilling marriage is over.

I've not had any experiences with male strippers (although I'd like too ;)) You seem to have a grasp on the circumstances of casual sexual encounters and if your are comfortable with a little exploration with your sexuality and a little "Christening" of Your new single life than go for it. But remember to be safe!

Dont think for a second itsd "slutty" - Men have been doing this for years opon years, and These Day us ladies have decided we can do it too if it suites us WITHOUT feeling badly.

Get out there and have some fun! You certainly sound Like you are ready a rearing to go!

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Registered: 04-01-2003
Sun, 10-02-2005 - 10:50pm
I've been to see the male shows several times, but never had anything like that happen. Of course, it wasn't a private party but a show in a nightclub. Don't have any wild or raunchy stories to share about 'em. It was a fun girl's night out every time, but I wasn't turned on. Or even remotely interested, lol.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 10-03-2005 - 5:11pm

Hey, Megan, what's good for the goose, is good for the gander. If men, divorced or otherwise, can go and lust after strippers, then so can you.

You have no one to answer to, no one's feelings to be concerned with, so what's the harm in having some raunchy fun? You're a grown woman and almost single, right?

But whatever you decide to do with these guys on a personal basis, just be safe. You've only seen them dance, and that's their job. That's hardly a character reference though.

I've never had the experience of male strippers at a party so can't help you there.