NEWSWEEK story about women's infidelity

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NEWSWEEK story about women's infidelity
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Tue, 07-13-2004 - 12:11pm
Has anyone seen the new issue( 7/12) of NEWSWEEK with the cover story , "The New Infidelity" about how more wives are cheating, too?

Any reactions? Opinions?

I just got married and I'm not the least bit worried about my DW, but I have to admit it's not welcome news to hear that so many wives are cheating now.

taoist

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Tue, 07-13-2004 - 12:23pm
I think it's a reflection of the liberation of women. They now have birth control, outside childcare and their own financial means(and computers make dead-beat fathers a thing of the past). So they may feel more independent than in the past. I know that my mother after having four children was still a knockout and was only 25. My father fooled around on her from almost day one and she knew it(he didn't hide it and they even called the house). My mother could have ran out and had affairs, but she didn't. Of course, morally, she didn't believe in it, but even if she did, there were those deterrants I'd listed above. Many women were very dependent on the men in their lives, emotionally and financially....and, at least in my mother's era(the 50's), it was more accepted for a man to fool around(after all he had needs that she didn't), but if a woman did it, it was a disgrace to her and her family...and a slut.
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Tue, 07-13-2004 - 12:29pm

I just looked it up and read it.


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Tue, 07-13-2004 - 12:35pm
YES! I read that and I was horrified!

It's part of the reason why the concept of marraige scares me- how can people treat their partners that way??

I guess tho, I've been cheated on and know how crushing that is...and on the flip side i have NEVER cheated, nor can i conceptualize every doing it.

The problem really is that people can lose the idea of having a life PARTNER. Having a partner requires trust, communication, loyalty, honesty- the love, sex and romance are the cherry on top to me! if those base 'ingredients' are lost then the other stuff goes away and people look for cheap replacements!

of COURSE some relationships DO die and should be left, but let one relationship go before starting a new one!! there's also something to be said about everyone always looking for the easy out, right? the magic diet pill, the quick money scheme....no one wants to do the hard work anymore!! ugh...the whole THING is so upsetting!!

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Tue, 07-13-2004 - 12:37pm
that's a GREAT point Tish!

Is there REALLY more cheating going on, or just a greater willingness to talk about it!
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Tue, 07-13-2004 - 12:55pm
I personally think it is a combination of the social awakening of women's sexuality and more women talking about it. I personally think it's sad so many people(men AND women) cheat. For a generation that supposedly knows so much more about their sexuality, they sure don't treat it as it should be.

Leticia

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Tue, 07-13-2004 - 2:40pm
BTW, here's the link to the article:

www.msnbc.msn.com/id/5359...e/newsweek

Click on NEWSWEEK

then SOCIETY

then "SECRET LIVES OF WIVES"




Edited 7/13/2004 2:54 pm ET ET by taoistnovice

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Tue, 07-13-2004 - 7:51pm
I posted my opinion on one of the other boards you posted this on. Women's infidelity has been going on since the beginning of time theme.
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Tue, 07-13-2004 - 8:38pm

Well, I cheated on my ex husband numerous times.

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Tue, 07-13-2004 - 9:47pm

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Wed, 07-14-2004 - 2:05am
Well, there's your answer for the 60% divorce rate!

I find it very sad, not surprising, but sad. I don't believe we'll ever get anywhere just mimicking the worst behavior of men.

Why get married if you don't think you can be faithful though? And why cheat anyway? IF you are tempted, then divorce and be on your way.

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