Newsweek - Why get married?
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Newsweek - Why get married?
| Wed, 07-14-2004 - 1:24pm |
There are some interesting responses to the Newsweek article on cheating wives which brings up a question? Why do people still want to get married, on the affair support board many are wanting to marry their affair partner and start the perfect life. If you are a male the court system is going to destroy you in a divorce so why keep getting married. Just a note to start, I think there have allways been just about the same amount on cheating women as men (who would the men have sex with, so it has to be about the same). A recent college study with a lie detector showed that women lie about sex questions and that throws off surveys that don't use them. Over all the percent of cheating women and men has increased over the past thirty years as well as the divorce rate. Currently, according to paternity lab results, about 30% of children in divorce cases were not fathered by the husband.
Getting married is a huge gamble with your life and the current success rate is less than 50%. I am currently married and have been for a long time but if I were ever divorced or a young person starting out I don't think I would ever marry. The odds of being betrayed are just too great.

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One day things will turn. People will remember what's really important in life, and it's not more stuff: a bigger car, a bigger house, more gadgets and fast food. It's relationships...it's spending enough time with someone to really know them...it's feeling safe enough with someone to really be known, and loved despite the fact that we are imperfect. Perfect is BORING! Give me a beautifully, perfectly imperfect partner any day of the week.
Peace.
Scott.
I personally did not feel any need to remarry ever again when my divorce went through last year. I'm not going to have any more children, and I can support myself. I have a job and I have healthcare, and there would be no social stigma in my community about simply living together, so there seem to be no purely practical reasons. For young couples planning to have children, I would still advocate marriage, but it's not absolutely necessary.
The one advice I would give to anyone, male or female, is that marriage shouldn't replace the responsibility for taking care of yourself. I personally think it's foolish to go into a marriage at any age and become totally dependent on the other person. You realistically need to think about what you would do to support yourself in the case of divorce or death. Make sure you have some resources available to you so that you can stand on your own if need be. You just shouldn't bury your head in the sand.
Susan
For me & Mrs. Para, marriage is not about being happy. Its not about finding that perfect someone who will fulfill our lives. Marriage is about one single thing only:
being in love with that soul mate "no matter what" happens...EVER!
Yes some view that as unrealistic, but if you haven't loved someone that much, then you'll never comprehend just how realistic it actually is.
As I've said on topics like this before, unless something has changed, the Christopher Reeve situation is still one of the great examples of a genuine marriage. It is based on limitless love.
Marriage isn't about loving your partner until something goes wrong, its about "no matter what." If betrayal keeps you from loving your mate, then why did you marry? Love should NEVER be the result of trust...that places love in the category, and marriage is suppose to be that one single love union that has no limits and no conquerors.
Just our opinions.
Mr. & Mrs. Para
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C H A R A C T E R
Scott.
I must disagree with "no matter what".
2) Thanks scott. Wifey's received quicker replies by others around here for less significant topics, so she's super curious about this one, LOL!!, and so am I. ;]
C H A R A C T E R
I appreciate that it is how *your* marriage works, but would you
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