Newsweek - Why get married?
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Newsweek - Why get married?
| Wed, 07-14-2004 - 1:24pm |
There are some interesting responses to the Newsweek article on cheating wives which brings up a question? Why do people still want to get married, on the affair support board many are wanting to marry their affair partner and start the perfect life. If you are a male the court system is going to destroy you in a divorce so why keep getting married. Just a note to start, I think there have allways been just about the same amount on cheating women as men (who would the men have sex with, so it has to be about the same). A recent college study with a lie detector showed that women lie about sex questions and that throws off surveys that don't use them. Over all the percent of cheating women and men has increased over the past thirty years as well as the divorce rate. Currently, according to paternity lab results, about 30% of children in divorce cases were not fathered by the husband.
Getting married is a huge gamble with your life and the current success rate is less than 50%. I am currently married and have been for a long time but if I were ever divorced or a young person starting out I don't think I would ever marry. The odds of being betrayed are just too great.

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I personally think that the divorce and cheating rates are rising because people have gotten so friggin lazy! No one tries to work anything out anymore by going to counseling or just simply talking it through. So many married and divorced men and women need to realize that their husbands and wives are HUMAN. Now if youre intentionally hurting eachother...well then you dove into the whole thing way too fast w/o getting to know the other person good enough and how you mesh.
If the marriage was so important in the first place it still should be after 10 or 15 years or whatever.
Im 20 years old and I dont care what anyone says about marriage, commitment, or my fiance and him being in the marines. I never thought I could love someone so much...I never thought I could be so close to anyone or feel so loved...People have tried to scare both of us off from getting married many times already. Ya know what? We both know there's more than enough love, integrity, commitment, determination, and trust between us that we're gonna be just fine :)
Best wishes girl !!!
Connie in TX
Best wishes.
Perhaps that had more to do with how young you were when you got married. You weren't even an adult yet. I myself have never felt that way in my marriage. best of luck with baby #5 :o)
Leticia
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Edited 7/29/2004 7:31 pm ET ET by vernalea
Edited 7/29/2004 11:09 pm ET ET by vernalea
You must not stay at home. I am a 24 year old mother of two boys. Let me tell you how my life is not the picture you just painted.
"she can pick up some hobbies, take good care of herself with excercising and treatments."
With two boys ages 3 1/2 and 9 months, a house to care for, meals to make, and errands to run, I very rarely have time for my own hobbies let alone excersize or relaxation. I'm so busy making good men out of my sons that I forget or don't have a lot of time to take "good care of myself".
"She can have the house nice, dinner cooked AND be in the mood to actually BE with her hubby and give him the nice extras from not being too tired. "
I am up at 6 am every morning and work my fingers to the bone, and my house is rarely "nice" when my dh comes home, because my young boys have their needs too that take quite a bit of time. I really don't think my dh gets any of the "extras" you talk about. I go to bed at 10, and believe me, I usually am too tired.
That being said, I love my dh and my two kids dearly, and I know they love me. My dh and I still work to make time for each other though it is hard. When we have a problem, we talk about it. We have a good life together. As my baby gets older and isn't requiring as much from me, maybe the housework won't take so long, and maybe I will have more time to spend doing what I want to do. But as my mother can tell you, even after the kids are all grown up, you still don't get a lot of time for yourself. She has been married for 40 some odd years now, and has a great relationship with my dad. I did not vow to be married to my dh until death do we part. We were married for time and all eternity. Think about that. We are married forever. That is a long time. My dh is my best friend and we work every day to make our marriage work. Divorce is NOT an option for us. I will always be faithful to him, and I know, because I know him, that he will ALWAYS be faithful to me. We are partners for eternity.
Jayme
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