Newsweek - Why get married?
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Newsweek - Why get married?
| Wed, 07-14-2004 - 1:24pm |
There are some interesting responses to the Newsweek article on cheating wives which brings up a question? Why do people still want to get married, on the affair support board many are wanting to marry their affair partner and start the perfect life. If you are a male the court system is going to destroy you in a divorce so why keep getting married. Just a note to start, I think there have allways been just about the same amount on cheating women as men (who would the men have sex with, so it has to be about the same). A recent college study with a lie detector showed that women lie about sex questions and that throws off surveys that don't use them. Over all the percent of cheating women and men has increased over the past thirty years as well as the divorce rate. Currently, according to paternity lab results, about 30% of children in divorce cases were not fathered by the husband.
Getting married is a huge gamble with your life and the current success rate is less than 50%. I am currently married and have been for a long time but if I were ever divorced or a young person starting out I don't think I would ever marry. The odds of being betrayed are just too great.

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Yes, I would say the one doing the cheating is the one missing something.
Somewhere along the line, marriage got mixed up with "romance" & "romantic love". I am curious to read this book:"A History of the Wife" by Marilyn Yalom. It sheds light on how this happened.
I am a single (out of choice) once married woman. Whenever I talk about my lack of need for marriage and the belief that marriage doesn't work in our present society (50% + divorce rate will attest to that), most of my married friends/relatives get bent out of shape, tell me I am "sour" and that it is the be-all and end-all of life (maybe not in those words)even though they are plainly unhappy in their choices. I think that I may shake their values and choices and that is a scarey thing for alot of folks to think about.
CAUTION: travel, work, get to know yourself on your own.... It may be scarey, but will make you alot wiser about life, and alot wiser about your choices,
While I wouldn't have worded my post the same way as Tiana, I'm a stay at home mom and find that the arrangement works quite well.
You know, DH and I were talking about this a few days ago. After almost 8 years(this Tuesday) together, we are still very much in love. DH attributes that to me being a SAHM. We don't have two competing careers, and therefore can devote more time to each other and to our family. It also allows for each of us to follow our seperate hobbies and interests without it cutting even more time into our families, as it would being a two career family. Once my kids are in school I am going to be going back to school and will get a job, but it won't be anything really demanding as I need the flexibility to be home when my kids are home etc. Nothing against two career families, but I find them(in my experience) to have more difficulty trying to keep up family and marital bonds. They always seemed to be the ones who told us eventually we would stop being so affectionate(ha! didn't happen).
Leticia
Robin
Robin, I honestly have no idea - I think that there really is no right answer to this issue.
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