Newsweek - Why get married?
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Newsweek - Why get married?
| Wed, 07-14-2004 - 1:24pm |
There are some interesting responses to the Newsweek article on cheating wives which brings up a question? Why do people still want to get married, on the affair support board many are wanting to marry their affair partner and start the perfect life. If you are a male the court system is going to destroy you in a divorce so why keep getting married. Just a note to start, I think there have allways been just about the same amount on cheating women as men (who would the men have sex with, so it has to be about the same). A recent college study with a lie detector showed that women lie about sex questions and that throws off surveys that don't use them. Over all the percent of cheating women and men has increased over the past thirty years as well as the divorce rate. Currently, according to paternity lab results, about 30% of children in divorce cases were not fathered by the husband.
Getting married is a huge gamble with your life and the current success rate is less than 50%. I am currently married and have been for a long time but if I were ever divorced or a young person starting out I don't think I would ever marry. The odds of being betrayed are just too great.

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My mother was a stay at home mom. Life was pure hell for us. God forbid anybody actually track dirt into HER clean house. Perhaps if she had a function, she would not have obsessed on the house or have been resentful of us tying her down or even being there.
Our little American family is quite well thank you.
Leticia
Rings, invitations, my dress, his outfit, wedding in a park officiated by a friend, dinner for 50, favors, a guest book (99 cent store), a cake and two champagne toasts.
I would agree that some women are about making the wedding extravagant and forgetting the actual marriage (like forcus on the birth and forgetting you are actually getting a baby), but I spent time on those boards and didn't see much of that. Most people couldn't begin to afford such nonsense.
To us, marriage wasn't about raising kids. We already have two from prior unmarried relationships. It was about a promise made to each other before God and our families to stay together. We were already married in our hearts, but we wanted to stand before the world knowing that we made both a private and public promise.
That is her personality, her being a SAHM doesn't mean it turned her into a neat freak. Their are slobs and neat freaks who stay home, and slobs and neat freaks who work. That is neither here nor there. And your point of perhaps if she had a function is valid, but that doesn't necessarily mean a traditional job. It could mean a hobby, volunteer work, etc. I certainly don't define myself as a wife and mother only.
Leticia
Robin
Glad my husband is so laid back and not bitter about the divorce he went through. It was bad. I think I'll go home and kiss him for not being you.
You do win a prize for the most scathing rant I've ever read on these boards.
Leticia
This is no cutesy world here. What makes these people somewhat different is that they don't choose to be so pessimistic and angry.
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