No condoms, on pill What are my chances?

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Registered: 01-21-2007
No condoms, on pill What are my chances?
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Mon, 11-19-2007 - 6:00pm
Hey! Um, my b/f and I dated for 11 months. I love him very much and a couple nights ago, we were having sex. It was so great. He pulled off the condom after though cause he wanted to cum on me. He came then came back on top of me. He started kissing me and stuff and then I felt him try putting his penis in me and I wanted him to do it. It's just 1 thing thats keeping me back and thats getting pregnant. I'm on birth control and I don't miss any, I take them on time everyday too. But I was told that even though I'm on the pill, I could still get pregnant. Is that true? I'm 22 and my b/f's 22 too. Were not ready for kids. Even if we were. If it were to happen, his mom wouldn't be pleased. Mine wouldn't be either. My mom said if it happends then all I have to do is move in with him. But his mom wants no part of it either. Plus, there's no carpet over
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Registered: 02-28-2006
Mon, 11-19-2007 - 6:34pm
If you're religious about taking your pills, and taking them at the same time every day, then your chances of getting pregnant are extremely slim. Back when I was your age, in the days before the AIDS epidemic, I wouldn't have thought twice about having sex without a condom if my partner was on the pill.






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Registered: 03-08-2004
Mon, 11-19-2007 - 7:50pm

The pill is 99% effective if taken properly, every day, same time every day, not missing any.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Mon, 11-19-2007 - 9:15pm

It sounds to me like you're taking your pill properly. As the other members have mentioned, in such a case, the odds of you becoming pregnant are very slim. I was also of the generation when STDs and AIDS were not a huge concern. In the 10 years prior to getting married, I relied solely on birth control pills as my only form of contraception. Never had an unintentional pregnancy, so I'm a firm believer in their effectiveness.

If you are planning to stop using condoms, please be sure that the two of you are both being monogamous and have been tested for any possible STDs from previous partners. There are a lot more aspects to acting responsible when sexually active today, so in addition to planning carefully to avoid pregnancy, you also need to protect yourself.





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Registered: 08-01-2006
Mon, 11-19-2007 - 9:31pm

You've gotten some great advice already. If you take your pills everyday, and on time, the chances are pretty slim. At the same time, you need to take responsibility for your actions. I noticed a couple of red flags in your post. You said, I'm having these thoughts also that if it happends, he'll turn on me. He's having sex too, so he needs to take some responsibility. If you're not ready for kids, then you shouldn't be having sex. IMHO.


You also said, When he goes out at night he's gotto phone his mom to tell her where he is and what time he's comming back. Basicly she treats him younger than his age, I'm not sure if it's cause of the problem he has.



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