No Feeling when having sex!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Registered: 07-02-2005
No Feeling when having sex!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 6:04am
hello i have a problem me and my boyfriend in may are going to have been having sex for one yr but i dont know whats wrong with me its like when hes inside of me i dont feel him much, i dont know why he cums 3 times a day and i only had a orgasm once!!! i cant believe thiis...im 18 and hes 20 i shouldnt be feeling like his, he was my first so it isnt like ive been with anyone else. please help me whats wrong with me!!..do i need viagra????????????????// helP!
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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 7:42am

The majority of women (about 80%)


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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 12:08pm

You aren't a man. His response has nothing to do with your response, so you can't compare the two. You're female and your sexual response is going to be different. Intercourse is the most efficient way for men to orgasm. It typically isn't for women.

And your ages have nothing to do with your capacity for pleasure either.

Do a little research, explore your sexuality by yourself and discover what YOU need as a woman to enjoy sex with your partner. For most women, it's direct clitoral stimulation along with intercourse and other types of sexual activity.

The vagina isn't the counterpart to the penis for pleasure, the clitoris is. It has 8,000 nerves as compared the 4,000 in the head of a penis. That means that MOST of your pleasure will center and resonate from there, not your vagina.

Ask for manual and oral stimulation before and during intercourse, and you'll enjoy intercourse much more.




Edited 2/23/2006 12:26 pm ET by katmandoo2001
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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 3:25pm

As the others said, the only thing that's wrong with you is that you have no idea how your body works, and probably your b/f doesn't either. Both of you need to check out the website that Tish gave you.

Also, Viagra is for men who can't get an erection, not for a woman who doesn't have orgasms. What you need to have orgasms is knowledge, not medications.

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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 11:40pm

Flyazznena, I am a married man who has been married to his wife for many, many years. When my wife and I married there were no computers with boards like this. We actually didn't know as much then as you know now.

It took us quite a while after marriage to realize that a woman usually doesn't get much pleasure from intercourse alone. Most women need clitoral stimulation before, during, or even after intercourse. My wife has very pleasurable sex with me now, but not when we first married.

You should try touching yourself, so that you know exactly what stimulates you. Every woman is different, but the clitoris is the key. My wife likes to use a vibrator on her clitoris while I enter her vagina with my middle finger and rub the upper(top) of the inside of the vagina where the "G" spot is. This stimulation creates for her mutiple explosive orgasms that can last 3 or 4 minutes. It is extremely satisfying for me to get her to reach such pleasurable heights.

You have the advantage of invaluable knowledge today that is readily available. We were not thar fortunate and it took us a few years to "get it right". Good luck