No more Os

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Registered: 04-04-2006
No more Os
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Thu, 04-06-2006 - 2:07pm

A couple months ago, I broke up with my boyfriend, who was the first person I'd ever slept with. I recently slept with a someone else (actually on three separate occasions) and for the life of me could not orgasm. I used to have one practically every time I had sex, so I feel like I know what to do. But I can't seem to get there. Am I just out of practice?

Any advice?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: ladadatadada
Thu, 04-06-2006 - 2:28pm
The difference was that you were in an established relationship with someone you knew well and trusted with your old BF. Most women need that to be comfortable enough to orgasm with a partner. Give it some time.
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Registered: 12-24-2005
In reply to: ladadatadada
Thu, 04-06-2006 - 2:36pm
Yep, I agree with Kat. In my experience, the female orgasm has a lot to do with trust. My guess is that's what's
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Registered: 07-26-2005
In reply to: ladadatadada
Thu, 04-06-2006 - 3:25pm

As the others said, it's a new relationship. Every relationship is different, every man is different, and he may be doing different things than your ex was, or not doing the right things. I'll bet you didn't have orgasms with your ex the first 3 times, or even longer. It takes TIME to get used to a new partner, and maybe your new partner needs to be told what it takes to get you there.

In any case, the surest way NOT to have them is to worry about it. Concentrate on what IS happening, not what's NOT happening. If you enjoy what you're doing, and think about the pleasure you're having, it will happen.