No need for KY jelly...HELP
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| Mon, 08-14-2006 - 9:49pm |
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Hello everyone. Guess I should introduce myself...being new and all. I'm Debra and have enjoyed reading, learning, replying and now asking questions. Its great to have all of our knowledge to help one another in one place. Thanks to whoever the creator is, you will and have helped many I am sure. ;-) I have been separated since 2000, (ekks long time) divorce is in the works. Since that time I have not been dating or have I have any sex with anyone but myself...which I was ok with until this gentleman moved in across the street from me last year, well to be blunt, I knew 1st time we met that I WANTED him and wanted him really bad. He is the 1st man Ive given the slightest thought of getting together since 2000. I know I wasn't dead inside, masterbation has kept me from going into a lack of sex insanity...about 2 wks ago I finally got my nerve up to pursuing my feelings. And boy oh boy...I have exploded into this 48 yr old, sexual lioness...I thought we reached our peak at 30ish...I am going crazy wanting him like all the time, he is 62 and thought 3x's week was a good time and now I have said oh no...I want, I need it daily. He was like huh??? hahaha anyways, now comes my question...I never have had any problem with lubrication...you would think I should have dried up some over the years, but oh no, I get so wet he is just amazed and now I am thinking this isn't good, cuz I get so wet that he has a hard time staying inside...I just flood him out. this isn't good, Is this normal?? I told him that maybe if we do it like 10x's a day maybe it will empty out what Ive stored the past 6yrs hehehe (my sneeky way of getting more sex hehe) lol I told him about finding this site and that I was going to ask you all for your help. Please Help!! I told him I feel like oh oh watch out my boy toy, cuz I want to let loose like Ive never have in my life. So is this like a menopause thing...I found out in Feb 05 that I have Graves disease & have had my thyroid burnt out with radio active iodine...in Dec began taking Synthyroid. A couple of days ago I put in a tampax before seeing him, thinking well, maybe I can soak some up...didn't help...I told him it has to be cuz he not only really Turns me on, which I begin fantasing months ago about him, but because I feel so comfortable with him, and he with me & that its been soooooooo long since Ive had desire it just has to be released. I am learning just what I missed thru out my 23yrs of marriage, without liking to give oral sex, cuz way hubby would.......well he wasn't nice about it at all, so I wasn't either. But John, he has shown me just how yummy it is for him and for me. I hope I have not turned into "a dirty old horny lady" well...horny is ok but dirty, yuck. Any advice out there? Thanks, Deb
Oh yeah, I do realize that "doing" a neighbor isn't really a smart to do, but he will be moving to AZ after the 1st of year, so the more he spoke of his property there and when he was moving, I thought hmmmmmm I like my life and living alone, not wanting to get into serious relationship, as he didn't either, (hes been divorced for 2yrs) and scared to death of what you can get from sex...My question to him was I want safe clean sex, Im safe & clean are you??? he is...makes for the bestest sex partner I could ask for. We have agreed that we will be the only ones we are with, until one of us want different. LOL oh no, guess I am thinking like some men ... just want the sex thank you...we have a great time, good commuication, trust and are honest with eachother. We know where we stand and where we want to stand in the future. LOL poor guy, told him after our 1st time that if he was lying bout having anything, that I was going to do the Bobbit Chop and Drop to him...& the drop wouldn't be where it was found and reattached... lol that look on his face was "priceless" hehehehe

Age has nothing to do with "peaks" and/or lubrication, in women OR in men!
Since you lubricate when you're "aroused"....I don't see what good a tampon before seeing him would do? Some women lubricate more than others. There's not much you can do but keep a tissue or washcloth handy, and if you get too wet....dry it up a little.
There's nothing wrong with having a relationship with a neighbor....why would you think that? Maybe if you wanted to end it, it might get sticky, but that's unlikely since he's leaving in a few months anyway! The only problem is that you're going to get used to it....and he's leaving town....and leaving you high and dry! You've been alone long enough, you need to start getting out and meeting guys that won't be leaving town.
People in their 50's have the best sex of any age group, according to multiple articles I've read, so you're a little ahead of the game, it seems :-) I hope I'm a sexual lioness at 48, too!
If I were you I'd consult with a gynecologist about the excessive lubrication. Perhaps they can prescribe something or offer some tips.