No Sex for 5 more months :-(

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No Sex for 5 more months :-(
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Tue, 07-03-2007 - 10:26pm
I just found out yesterday that my lovely DH will not be home till December 10 :-(
So that means I will not have had any for 10 months ughhhhhhhh.So I would like to know if there is a possibilty if I use nothing inserted in me as far as toys, if I will be tighter by then or if that is jsut a myth.I would aslo like some new things to try by myself for more pleasure than what I have now.I used to have 3 diff vibes but they ALL broke so I have just been sticking to the good ole finger method which after a while just doesn't really enthuse me at all butw hatever.So any suggestions as afr as masturbation ideas anyone????Sorry to vent but he was 8 weeks from coming home and now it's 5 months.Also one more thing, keegle exrcises or whatever they are called, how do you do them and are they guranteed to work???
~ Emily ~
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Tue, 07-03-2007 - 10:49pm

>>>So I would like to know if there is a possibilty if I use nothing inserted in me as far as toys, if I will be tighter by then or if that is jsut a myth.<<<

Total myth. If you want to try tightening things up, try kegels, or invest in some Fun Factory Smart Balls. They are weighted balls that you insert into the vagina, and your vaginal muscles will really have to work in the beginning to hold them in. After a while your muscles will become strong, and you won't notice them as much, but things should be tighter down there. Two of the CLs on the Secrets of Married Sex swear by them, and there are other women around the sex boards that have had success with different brands that work equally as well. They also massage the muscles, and may help you to lubricate better.

Here's a couple of links about kegel exercises:

http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sextechnique/0,,drruth_7b485ghn,00.html

http://obgyn.health.ivillage.com/urinarybladderhealth/kegelexercises.cfm

From what I've read, if you want to see much in the way of results with kegels, you have to be diligent about doing them several times a day. Different women report varying levels of success with them. And of course, it will be hard to know how much of a success they are until your DH gets home.

Any chance of buying another vibe? It's my experience that cheap vibes crap out LOL. I want a Fun Factory vibe - they cost heaps more, but they are much better quality. If only I had the money....lol. I've seen some women find new uses for their Venus Vibrance razor as a cheap alternative ;-). New fantasies might help with masturbating as well. There are stories on the Fantasies Board that might give you some new ideas.

 


 


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Tue, 07-03-2007 - 10:52pm
Hey Emily haven't seen you in a while, I'm so sorry to hear about your DH. I hope it goes by fast! I have heard the kegel exercises really work. Maybe you should get another vibe???
I wish you luck!
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Tue, 07-03-2007 - 10:54pm

Hi Emily,

Sorry to hear your guy is going to be delayed in returning.

If you want to practice kegel exercises, just use your muscles like you do when you stop the flow of urine. While it doesn't tighten your vagina, it does give you better control of those muscles, which will make sex more pleasurable for both of you.

Since you plan to go toy shopping, look for Ben-Wa balls. A popular type are also called Smart Balls. I recommend them because they have a string attached, which makes removal easier. You will feel some pleasure while they are inserted, and it definitely makes doing your exercises more fun. You can also practice your kegel exercises during masturbation with or without the smart balls inserted.

I have read good reviews for the lay-a-spot vibrator, and it gives you options for trying different positions, like laying on your stomach. Also, look for a vibe designed for g-spot stimulation. They can usually be used on your clitoris as well.



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Wed, 07-04-2007 - 5:05am
Everything that I was going to say has already been said by xploziv, including the recommendation for the Fun Factory vibes. It seems like all of our (DW and my) favorite vibes are from Fun Factory, including the Layaspot that Misty mentioned. Several of the women on the boards seem to be big fans of the SmartBalls.

I'm sorry to hear that your DH has been extended, and that you won't get to see him for so long.



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Wed, 07-04-2007 - 8:34am

Emily,

I am so sorry to hear that your Dh's return home is going tobe delayed. I am going on a trip for 4 days and cringe at the thought of no sex for even that long. You definately need a new toy!
The Smart Balls are wonderful! I notice a huge difference when I use them regularly. Just a warning, you will get very horney using them. After I wear them for a few hours I need to have sex or masturbate and usually the orgasm I have after wearing them is very powerful.

Also what about a dildo along with a vibe? I am no expert but I can't imagine how it couldn't help strengthen inside as well!!!



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Wed, 07-04-2007 - 4:23pm

Hi Steve..could you send me the link where you purchase your items from?

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Wed, 07-04-2007 - 4:26pm
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Fri, 07-06-2007 - 7:58pm

If you don't have one invest in a good flexible showerhead. Fairly inexpensive and very easy to install. It provides varity plus it keeps you very clean !

The rest of the advice is great. Try to get a rabbit vibe if you can. The best one I have was less than $20 so definitely affordable. Those are definitely the best if there is not a man around at all for a while.

Sorry to hear your DH is going to be gone so much longer. My BF is gone for a week at a time and that about kills me (thank goodness for the showerhead AND the rabbit lol) so I can't imagine what you are going through. Its hard enough to have my son overseas for 7 months.

Good luck to you!