"No Strings" to "All Knotted Up"... FAST
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"No Strings" to "All Knotted Up"... FAST
| Mon, 10-04-2004 - 12:17am |
I am a typical "good girl"..never been promiscuous and tend to be in meaningful relationships..However, a few weeks ago I went to a party and was pretty drunk w/ extremely low inhibitions..I finally met this guy that I had had my eyes on for the past couple of weeks who also lives right down the hall from me in my college dorm..We had a very quick conversation and it became quite apparent he was also into me at this point..Anyway, we ended up leaving the party together, and walking back to our dorm. (with a few stops to kiss a little bit)..so I invited him in to my room to talk maybe a little bit more...and one thing led to another and we ended up having sex...I NEVER do this sort of thing (meet a guy and have sex with him in the same night..) and I tried to blame it on the alcohol..and needless to say, I was pretty disappointed in myself the next day (after he had left.. very quietly, that is)..So I promised I wouldnt let something like this happen again..Well, the next weekend I went out with my girlfriends.. met up with this guy again..and basically repeated exactly what happened the previous weekend..this has happened 4 times now (after a few drinks..we meet, have short conversation, leave, kiss, have absolutely incredible sex..and thats it)..After the 2nd time, I was thinking.."this could be good to just have a friend with amazing benefits who lives right down the hall from me..no feelings involved at all"..However, the same situation happened last night, we had a little bit more conversation, little kissing, walked back holding hands, and had great sex..the catch is.. as most women do, I am now starting to have feelings for this guy..I told him I invited him to my sorority's "crush party"(you invite your crush.. its anonymous.. he isnt supposed to know who invited him, etc.) and he seemed pretty excited about it until he found out the date and informed me he couldnt go b/c he was going to be out of town for a wedding..a few things like this have happened..where it seems like he is interested and excited about this as well, but also a few things have happened to make me think he isnt interested..another catch is that I am by no means a confontational person..and have no idea how to handle this situation..I feel like I might have lost his respect b/c I had sex with him so early..we barely see each other during the week b/c our schedules are compeltely opposite, and when we do see each other its always a quick "hey, how are you?" and a goofy smile..I feel like this coming weekend may be good since hes going to be out of town and we wont be able to hook up..maybe clear some things up for both of us in our heads..but at the same time..I dont want him to move on or not not think about this situation..My questions are..how do I show him that I am actually interested in him, more than just for the sex (with my lack of confrontation skills..and the fact that I would probably stumble all over words if I had to talk to him seriously outside of our typical situation)?..is this too late?..is the fact that we've had multiple occasions of this happening a good or bad thing?..how can i tell if hes feeling the same way about this (do guys sometimes tie emotion into this stuff after a while)? and ANY advice anyone can give me... Thanks!

2. Stay away from the alcohol.....that's just an excuse.
The only thing you can do is talk to him, ask him what his feelings are and tell him what yours are.