No Urges to have sex..what is wrong?
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No Urges to have sex..what is wrong?
| Fri, 01-14-2005 - 7:43pm |
I just got married 3 months ago. I should want to have sex at least a few times a week. But i have no urge to do it. I have only had one orgasm and i am 26 so i think that may have to do with it. I feel so bad for my husband, i know he always wants to do it and i always deny him. Can someone help me? I have never masterbated either maybe if i do i will then like sex better?
Thanks

Having or not having an orgasm should not lower your sex drive.
As Tishsaid, masturbation is the best way to get to know what feels best for you. When I first married, my wife did not get much out of intercourse. We were both novices at sex. However, she went along and had sex for my sake initially and then we worked at getting her to enjoy in also.
The vast majority of women do not orgasm through intercourse. Most women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm. This can be accomplished digitally by you or your husband or using a vibrator (my wife's favorite stimulation) or orally which seems to be the favorite method for most women. You have to really work at learning what both of you loke and don't give up. You WILL get to the point where you both get satisfaction and that is the name of the game!! Good luck and keep trying and communicating with your husband.
By the way, I am 74 and my wife is 70 and we still have sex regularly ( more than you), and we have been happily married for almost 50 years and started off with my wife getting little satisfaction. So, better days are coming!!