Non stop sex thoughs

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Registered: 03-15-2006
Non stop sex thoughs
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Tue, 09-05-2006 - 4:43pm

Ok, I am a woman and I think I have a higher sex drive then most males!

I constantly think about sex. There isn't an hour that doesn't go by in the day that I don't think about sex. I just cannot wait till I can get it again!

I just hooked up with an ex a couple days ago and now I just want to call him everyday and ask him to get together just so I can have sex. Of course, I can't do that b/c I just got together with him again and I don't want to send him running 100 miles per hour in another direction b/c I want sex 24/7. I am sure he loves it too, but I don't know if he is on the same level as I am! In my ideal day we would be meeting up (more then once) in a day to do the deed.

Do other women share these same feelings? I feel like I could be a nymph! LOL!

And, add a little alcohol to the situation and it gets even worse.

I was just curious if other people dealt with these same feelings and what they do when they can't get what they need all the time.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 09-05-2006 - 5:11pm

Well, let me start by saying that I also have a higher sex drive than my DH.

But unless you are putting yourself into dangerous and risky situations to get sex, then you aren't a nymphomaniac, which is a very REAL psychological disorder, not the definition of a highly sexed woman.

And since you CAN get the sexual fulfillment you need via masturbation, then I don't see why you would need to compromise yourself in any way to have a sexual outlet.

Now, I realize that masturbation and actual sexual contact with a casual sex partner are very different, but they DO ultimately serve the same basic physical purpose...sexual fulfillment.

If you find yourself spending inordinate amounts of time thinking about sex, maybe something is missing from your life.

Maybe you need to divert some attention to other things that you find stimulating, exercise more to use some of that sexual energy or find a permanent partner.

If you CAN'T find other ways to use that sexual energy and find yourself taking more and more risks to have sex, or the rest of your life is suffering because of inattention, then maybe you DO have nymphomania, or Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, which would require professional attention.

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Registered: 07-26-2005
Wed, 09-06-2006 - 12:29am

Sex can be an addiction, like anything else....alcohol, drugs or food. And like any other addiction, if you don't want to be addicted, you get help for it.

Most addictions are fulfilling a "need" in a person's life.....what's missing in your life?

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Registered: 01-07-2005
Wed, 09-06-2006 - 2:19am

During my 9 year hiatius, sex was all I thought about - I actually wondered why men didn't follow the "do me" sign on my forhead.(LOL!). Now that I have someone in my life, I still think about sex constantly but it's different because I'm replaying our last episode, or last's month's, or the last he _ _ _ _. Then again, in the midst of the most non-sexual event I can find myself filled with desire and passion for him with no sexual forethought - totally amazing in my book.

There was something on tv the other night about the physical differences between men's and ladies' brain (a female wrote a book on it) and it said that the average male thinks of sex every 58 seconds, while on average females think about it once a day. I know for me and another female friend that poll makes us above average and I'm loving every minute of it!

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Registered: 08-28-2006
Wed, 09-06-2006 - 2:40am
Don't feel bad :)
I'm a stay at home mom, and I fantasize constantly and often buddy up with my favorite sex toys during my childrens napping time.
I think we should all worry about what's 'normal' less, and just go with it, so long as you aren't hurting anyone else.
Good for you, I say! :) Enjoy all of that energy... :)
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Registered: 12-27-2005
Wed, 09-06-2006 - 6:35am
I know exactly how you feel. I'm the same way. Non-stop thoughts. If I had my choice I'd probably spend a total of 2-3 hours a day having sex. What a great way to burn calories!
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Wed, 09-06-2006 - 9:40am

Hey, thanks for all your replies everyone!!

After reading all of your responses, I don't think I am a nymph, only due to the fact that I do not (at least I don't think I do) put myself in dangerous situations for getting sex.

I find I think about it SO much throughout the day, the response about men thinking about it every 58 seconds, prolly fits me, lol! ReadyToSexPlode, I am completely with you on this one, I would spend hours out of every day having sex if I could! True, you burn amazing amounts of calories while doing it and it is just the BEST feeling in the world!

Sometimes I have wondered why I am the way I am with it. I sometimes think it is for gaining a feeling of love or being wanted. Not to sound conceited, but I have always been told I am super hot, etc. but nothing compares to getting sex. Masturbation cannot in my opinion, for myself, work, nothing gets the release for me unless I have sex with a guy.

Do any of you, that have the high sex drive, such as myself, sometimes fear that you may actually scare the guy away b/c you want/need it SO bad? I feel like I could have sex with a guy, then an hour later, be all over him again, and this is just a continuing cycle! I know guys love sex, but sometimes I wonder if you can push or scare them away by wanting it SO much!

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Wed, 09-06-2006 - 9:42am
Oh, and also in response to getting a permanent partner, I had one that I was with for a couple of years. However, even being able to have sex with him all the time, I still thought about sex, but then with other people. Persay, my ex b/f.
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Wed, 09-06-2006 - 4:39pm

Desiring a lot of sex is fine, who doesn't enjoy sex, after all? But, within limits and moderation.

If it's ALL you focus on and think about, something's wrong, IMO. And I think you alluded to that by questioning your own motives....that maybe you were actually desiring affection and love from a man, not necessarily sex.

If your life is full, interesting, stimulating in other ways and generally fulfulling, then sex will definitely have it's place but it shouldn't be your SOLE focus in life. Frankly, THAT might scare a man away. Most people generally look for a well-balanced person to share their lives with.

I believe that adage "moderation in ALL things" is true. Any time we become too consumed with anything, even a good thing, it can become unhealthy.

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Registered: 01-07-2005
Thu, 09-07-2006 - 12:54am
LOL! I thoroughly earned my current nickname of "Greedy"; and trust me he does his best to meet my need.
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Registered: 12-27-2005
Thu, 09-07-2006 - 1:37am

cutiebatooty,

Yes...you can definitely scare a guy away with that type of need. However, those are probably the guys you want to scare away...you want to keep a guy that loves trying to keep up with you. So far I haven't scared my wife away...but then again we have 2 little ones and she's well taken care of. I've almost got her to once a day...which is about the longest I can go with out going crazy. I sometimes feel like a ravenous dawg..... :)