Is this normal?
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Is this normal?
| Mon, 04-17-2006 - 11:35am |
Yesterday during intercourse (both times) I noticed that I was not connecting emotionally with my partner...he seemed kind of bored and "going through the motions". He loves me, no doubt, he tells me all the time that I am beautiful and sexy. But both times he was unable to "finish"...I could tell there was a lot on his mind and there had been a disagreement that morning between us...so is this normal? I am afraid if the emotional was gone yesterday it might not return...
any advice?

Emotion rarely, if ever, disappears.
It sounds as if, like you suggested, he has some things on his mind and for some reason felt the need to retreat. This is actually a fairly common thing, and the best thing to do would be to approach him in a gentle way to try finding out what's
It's not that you weren't connecting with him, HE wasn't connecting with you! Is it normal? There's no such thing as "normal" in love, in sex, and in relationships. It's definitely not "unusual" for someone to not be "in the moment", particularly if they're stressed out, or after a "disagreement".
As for "He loves me, no doubt, he tells me all the time that I am beautiful and sexy"....don't confuse "beautiful and sexy" with LOVE.....they are two different things. And whether or not he loves you, there can still be "off" times during sex. Unless it continues, I wouldn't even give it a second thought.