is this normal?

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is this normal?
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Sat, 05-26-2007 - 8:51pm
my husband last night just asked me to perform anal sex on him? This freaked me out a little (but understood, because he told me a long time ago he was molested as a child) but this still makes me unconfortable how do I tell him or is this normal for men to want this I don't know what to do? I love him very much and I know he loves me but still I dont know? Please help!
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Sat, 05-26-2007 - 10:34pm
i think if you really loves him you should do what ever he likes...
and i think it may have nothing to do with his past,,may be he want to try somthing new..
if it pleases him go forward.....
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Sat, 05-26-2007 - 10:59pm

Welcome to the board cntrygrl29.

It's actually more common than you might think for guys to fantasize about anal penetration. The anus has a lot of sensitivity, and many sex toys are made for use during anal play -- for both men and women.

I doubt it has anything to do with his childhood. Would you be willing to visit an adult store or internet adult site to learn more about the type of anal play he is interested in?

Here are a couple of articles you might find helpful:

How Do I Give my Guy Anal Pleasure?
http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/advice/questions/give-anal-pleasure

5 Myths of Anal Sex Uncovered
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sextaboos/0,,jdgc,00.html



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Sun, 05-27-2007 - 4:53am
DW always uses an anal toy to massage my prostate while giving me a BJ. Really intensifies my orgasms. Years ago I never dreamed that I would enjoy this, but as I began to understand my prostate better, I asked DW to do this and WOW I was hooked. Many guys enjoy this. Perfectly normal-just a little kinky.
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Sun, 05-27-2007 - 6:45am

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Sun, 05-27-2007 - 6:46am
Hi Cntrygrl, this is actually a very common male fantasy, and I very much doubt that it has anything to do with his having been molested as a child. Anal penetration on a guy massages the prostate, which feels very, very good to us. DW and I have also been talking about having her do me with a strap-on.
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Mon, 05-28-2007 - 10:13pm
not abnormal at all. As the previous replies state the prostate being massaged feels very good.Being married for over fifteen years I cant wait to have wife penetrate me. Just have fears of what here reaction is going to be when i finally tell her. Since your husband has done so, it shows he is sexualy comfortable with you. Good luck and enjoy
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Mon, 05-28-2007 - 10:28pm
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Tue, 05-29-2007 - 6:50am
I was pretty taken back at first but after it happened and I saw how excited he got, I found I enjoyed it. I don't know how to tell him that though I even found myself last night having dreams that he was asking me to do this to him.