Is this normal?
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Is this normal?
| Tue, 05-08-2007 - 3:09pm |
I already know that my 30 year old fiance has issues with ED because of depression and diabetes and the meds that goes with them. We are both comfortable with his functionality and work around it when necessary. My concern is the other night during one of the times he was able to get an erection and we had intercourse he had, or at least I thought, ejaculated. It was very 'runny' and when I cleaned up I realized it smelled of urine. I honestly believe he urinated and did not ejaculate. Is this normal? He actually thinks that he ejaculated (By things he has said) and I have not told him differently yet because it bothered me and I'm not sure how to address it. Any input would really help....

Welcome to the board bride2b2007. There is a condition that can occur, especially in men who suffer from diabetes, called retrograde ejaculation. Here's a description:
"Normally, when you ejaculate, a muscle contracts to close off the entrance to the bladder, forcing the semen to shoot out the end of the penis. But if the muscle fails to close properly, the sperm enter the bladder instead -- a condition called retrograde ejaculation."
When this occurs, the man is likely to ejaculate very little semen. I don't know if it's possible for the urine to mix with that though. I would see if it continues to happen, and if so, encourage him to see his doctor.
Hopefully some of the other members will have some advice for you.
my partner in the siggy exchange
With DM, he wouldn't necessarily need to loose his erection to leak urine. There are 2 urinary sphincter's for men that become faulty and non functioning as nerve damage occures. This leakage can happen anytime whether he's erect or not. Retreograge ejaculation goes unnoticed by some men/couples for years and usually in its self doesn't require medical intervention, unless fertility is an issue. BUT,
This is a big but, the neurological damage to the urinary system as a whole is what will impact health and quality of life for him. Complete urinary incotinence, impotence, as well as kidney failure are just a few of the co-mordibities associated with DM. Your partner presents with a symptom that definately calls for additional work up by a physician and with this kind manifestation, I would be worried about his C1K score.