Is this normal?

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Registered: 05-07-2007
Is this normal?
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Tue, 05-08-2007 - 3:09pm
I already know that my 30 year old fiance has issues with ED because of depression and diabetes and the meds that goes with them. We are both comfortable with his functionality and work around it when necessary. My concern is the other night during one of the times he was able to get an erection and we had intercourse he had, or at least I thought, ejaculated. It was very 'runny' and when I cleaned up I realized it smelled of urine. I honestly believe he urinated and did not ejaculate. Is this normal? He actually thinks that he ejaculated (By things he has said) and I have not told him differently yet because it bothered me and I'm not sure how to address it. Any input would really help....
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Tue, 05-08-2007 - 4:05pm

Welcome to the board bride2b2007. There is a condition that can occur, especially in men who suffer from diabetes, called retrograde ejaculation. Here's a description:

"Normally, when you ejaculate, a muscle contracts to close off the entrance to the bladder, forcing the semen to shoot out the end of the penis. But if the muscle fails to close properly, the sperm enter the bladder instead -- a condition called retrograde ejaculation."

When this occurs, the man is likely to ejaculate very little semen. I don't know if it's possible for the urine to mix with that though. I would see if it continues to happen, and if so, encourage him to see his doctor.

Hopefully some of the other members will have some advice for you.



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Registered: 03-13-2005
Tue, 05-08-2007 - 4:27pm
That doesn't quite make sense because it is physically very difficult to pee when you have a full erection. For me at least, but I think it's true with most if not all other guys. That's why, if you have to go to the bathroom in the middle of sex it is all but impossible.
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Registered: 08-16-2006
Tue, 05-08-2007 - 4:41pm
You don't have diabetes or ED either. Most men can't urinate during an erection, but add DM type I or II, that changes erectile function that can be debilitating to a man and his partner. bride2b, if you are seeing urine in ejaculate ( show him next time ), try to get your partner to see a Urologist, there is damage occuring that he's unaware of and it will impact his erectile function in the future.
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Registered: 05-07-2007
Tue, 05-08-2007 - 6:33pm
Do you think it is possible that he had lost part of his erection and then was able to urinate? The reason I ask is because there was a lot of liquid and the consistency was watery and I am sure of the urine smell...just not sure if there was ejaculate with it. I also know that that sometimes he has an orgasm but is unable to ejaculate with it. I'm just very confused and concerned about his physical well-being. I have never been in a relationship with these issues before and I am trying to understand it all and want to help him in any way that I can.
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Registered: 08-16-2006
Wed, 05-09-2007 - 4:48pm

With DM, he wouldn't necessarily need to loose his erection to leak urine. There are 2 urinary sphincter's for men that become faulty and non functioning as nerve damage occures. This leakage can happen anytime whether he's erect or not. Retreograge ejaculation goes unnoticed by some men/couples for years and usually in its self doesn't require medical intervention, unless fertility is an issue. BUT,

This is a big but, the neurological damage to the urinary system as a whole is what will impact health and quality of life for him. Complete urinary incotinence, impotence, as well as kidney failure are just a few of the co-mordibities associated with DM. Your partner presents with a symptom that definately calls for additional work up by a physician and with this kind manifestation, I would be worried about his C1K score.