Not going to be fun

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Not going to be fun
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Fri, 06-18-2004 - 12:00pm
As of July 1,we are moving. Our home is sold and we are relocating a few hours north(NY)to temporarily live with my parents until our new home is completed(approx.6-8 weeks). As it is now we are very used to privacy seeing as though Dh and I have been living alone for years(with our son who just turned 6). We always have nights to ourselves and if the mood hit while we were in the kitchen,backyard,shower whatever then we made love right there and then. Obviously all that will be put on hold for a while but even still even though we will have our own room I still feel sort of uncomfortable seeing as though my parents are just across the hall. Ill feel so awkward, suppose they hear us. I know we are grown,married adults and they obviously know we are having sex but the thought of them being just a few steps away totally turns me off. DH and I have sex almost every night and I would definitely miss it if were gone or less often. We were talking lastnight and Dh says jokingly he will pitch a tent outback or we will have to buy a bigger car. On a serious note I really dont want our sexual relationship to suffer. Then I also think about my parents Im sure they want privacy too and I definitely dont want to hear them having sex either. I know its only temporary but 6-8 weeks is a long time if your not getting any(LOL). I dont know how to get around this. Any suggestions? Similar situations(what did you do)? TIA

TOOTS

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Fri, 06-18-2004 - 12:34pm
Dear toots,

My wife and I have the same problem when my father in law shows up from New Mexico...he camps out in our basement (right beneath our room) and usually stays a few weeks (yuck). Anyway, the only suggestion that I have is to be very quiet.

Good luck.

Scott.

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Fri, 06-18-2004 - 2:53pm
First, get back your sense of humor about it and remember, your parents are doing you a BIG favor. 6-8 weeks is a LONG time! They're being inconvenienced, too.

I would suggest that you learn to be more discreet and quiet and become more creative again. If you have a 6-yr. old, then I'm quite sure that you couldn't have sex whenever you wanted on a whim, with him at home. You've still had to be conscious of where he is at all times.

But this too shall pass and your marriage will survive, trust me. Been there, done that.


Edited 6/18/2004 2:58 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001

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Fri, 06-18-2004 - 7:58pm
Just curious, have you ever seen the movie, "The Myth of Fingerprints?" It's about a Thanksgiving where the adult kids all come home with their significant others. There's this funny scene where everyone's having sex and trying to be quiet, but everyone can hear everyone else doing it. You should check it out.

The only piece of advice I can give you is loosen up. If you're parents hear you, they hear you. No big deal. Just try to be quiet and put on some music to cover the sounds you do make. Putting on music is also a good idea to block out any sounds comming from their bedroom that you don't want to hear.

Good luck!