Not Really..That Interested Right Now

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Registered: 09-25-2004
Not Really..That Interested Right Now
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Tue, 04-26-2005 - 8:15pm
My DH has been out of town for three weeks now. In that three weeks, I've gotten very used to him not being here and being alone and no sex..DH keeps talking about how when he gets back, he can't wait to get to bed with me..How do I politely tell him w/o hurting his feelings or arousing suspicion (nothing is going on..its been me, school, DD, the cat)that sex isn't really a high priority for me right now..I would like to make love to him, but I don't know if I can. I've been sleeping alone for 3 weeks...Well, not alone..I've had the cat sleeping by my head every night...How do you get used to having your SO get reintroduced into your bed after a significant absence?
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Registered: 06-14-2002
Tue, 04-26-2005 - 11:13pm

Jennie ....
Let me start by saying I am in your husbands shoes. With my job, I am away from home more often than I would like. I don't know how long you have been married, but be glad that your husband is wanting to go to bed and make love to you. When husbands are off like this, it is easy to cheat and find someone to meet their physical requirements. Personnally I can't understandy why you aren't desparate for your husband to be in bed with you. My DW says that my being there is one of the most important things in her life (and her being there is one of the most important things in my life). We feel seperation pains even when one of us moves to the couch because I am snoring like a sawmill. I have now been on the road for 3 days and my DW is more than ready for me to come home (still a week away).

CH

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Wed, 04-27-2005 - 11:01am
Its not that I don't want him in my bed. I do. I miss having him there..It shouldn't have been implied. I've just gotten used to him being gone that its weird to wake up and find him there..I'm searching for the phone, waiting for his call..But, duh retard, he's right next to me! Did I mention that I'm 7 months pregnant and I've got hormones all over?
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Wed, 04-27-2005 - 11:57pm

Then I wouldn't worry about it. And yes with you being 7 month PG that could be affecting your mood. I have been blessed by being able to be there for large amounts of the pregnancies my DW has had that resulted in our 4 children. You will adjust to his being in bed with you. And when you wake up in the middle of the night and realize he is there ... just grab his hand and hold it, or touch him lightly (after all you aren't looking for sex, you are reinforcing your love. This I bet will go ok on the second night after he comes home.

CH

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Thu, 04-28-2005 - 9:31am
Aww, heck..Who's kidding? I'm selfish..I've had a king size bed to myself plus six pillows and all the blankets and room to roll and move and shake and kick..I love it! *LOL* I don't want to give up all that glorious room to move!