not sexy enough for sex??????

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Registered: 08-06-2004
not sexy enough for sex??????
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Thu, 09-09-2004 - 8:29am
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Edited 8/26/2008 5:59 pm ET by inacolada

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Registered: 08-06-2004
Fri, 09-10-2004 - 7:22am
Thanks to all of you for your replies.

It's good to know that you can always come here and get great advice.

Thanks again!!!

Love,

Ina
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Registered: 05-27-2004
Fri, 09-10-2004 - 8:13am
Phat, I don't have any numbers, or statistics....but you know very well there are NO cut and dried answers to anything like this. Maybe statistically, more older men than younger men have sexual problems. Of course, because more older men than younger men have health related problems. But "age" in and of itself doesn't cause problems. And particularly more often than not, when women here talk about "older" men, they're talking about 35, or 40.

My ex SO is almost 70, and he hasn't ever had a problem with erections, or interest in sex. And, by the way, he's a smoker, a heavy smoker. There are men of all ages that have erection problems, whether physical or emotional. The same thing goes for sexual "peaks". Statistically, 18 year old guys are ready to go at the drop of a hat, but there are relatively young men who aren't interested in sex at all.

Many people also think that women lose interest in sex when they go thru menopause. I'm sure some do, but I'll also bet that many of those are the women who didn't care much about it when they were younger, either. I've had friends say, "thank GOD, I'm finally thru menopause, and I can forget about that stuff"! And all I can do is wonder if their husbands feel the same. Probably not, but what can they do?

Women of today read "romance novels", see porn, and expect some "fantasy" idea when it comes to sex. I just read a report that a big part of the reason that YOUNG people, in their early teens are sexually active, is that they see so much sex on TV, even on network shows like "Friends", they start mistakenly thinking that sex is a major part of everyone's life. Then the young women expect guys to be sex machines, and it's just not going to happen, then they write their sad posts here, because they THINK they're missing out on something. They're confusing fantasy with reality!

I think this post is typical of false expectations. I completely agree with you that she's expecting something that isn't going to happen, and in the process, complicating matters by planting the seeds of doubt in his head.....which we all know will cause problems.

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