Not sure if I'm Orgasming...need advice

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Registered: 05-12-2007
Not sure if I'm Orgasming...need advice
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Thu, 06-21-2007 - 6:52pm

Hello!

I'm in my 30's and at my sexual peak and married. I get very aroused and excited and enjoy sex, but it seems that as the "tension" and feelings build to extreme, I get "touched out". I'm just not sure if that edge is my Orgasm, or if I'm not quite getting there. Any thoughts?????

Thanks!
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Registered: 04-20-2007
Thu, 06-21-2007 - 8:51pm

All I can do is say that everyone orgasms differently. You could be orgasming and you couldn't. A few others have posted about this same thing. I hope someone else can help you better than I have!!

~momma~

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Registered: 12-12-2006
Thu, 06-21-2007 - 11:45pm

You're not at your sexual peak.....and you may never be. That's pretty much in the mind...and it CAN increase as you get older and less reserved about it all.

They say if you have to ask, you're probably not. If you're busy wondering if "this is it", then you're causing it to stop. The minute you start "thinking" you're breaking your concentration, and that's it. Try just enjoying whatever you're feeling, and don't worry if it is or isn't.....just enjoy it. Making an orgasm a goal, or worrying about it is a sure way not to have one. If it feels good, go with it, don't analyze it.

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Registered: 08-12-2002
Fri, 06-22-2007 - 4:40am
I'm one that's of the opinion that if you have to ask if you are orgasming, you probably aren't. Just relax and enjoy the ride. Don't focus on achieving orgasm, because that will prevent it occurring.

 


 


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Registered: 03-31-2007
Fri, 06-22-2007 - 8:32am

Welcome to the board bitsandbytes.

It sounds more like you are just getting to the point of orgasm and then stopping. It can be very frustrating sometimes. If you think too much about the "orgasm", you actually cause a delay. So, when the good feelings are there, just relax and enjoy them. They will most likely continue to build, and the sensitivity will not become too much to handle.

If you do find that you're thinking about it, or becoming too sensitive, change what's happening. Either with a new position, go to oral, or just intercourse -- whatever will break that thought pattern and get you back into the event.



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Registered: 05-12-2007
Sun, 06-24-2007 - 1:25pm

Everyone has a sexual peak....regardless of what it is like compared to others. It is THEIR peak. Even if you are a 75 year old virgin priest, you had a peak! (Even if it was just thoughts~)

Anywy, I am a recovering victim of childhood sexual assault, so to me, just hte simple fact that I am loving and craving sex at this point in my life is wonderful and not everyone who went through what I have ever gets to this point. So, yes, for me, this is the highest point thus far...

Just wanted input to help it get further, I guess.

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Registered: 11-15-2006
Sun, 06-24-2007 - 4:39pm

Bits,

I am going to suggest a web site that I found to be so helpful for me to help understand what was going on with me sexualy. I always enjoyed sex, never really had a horrible experience (so I really am not able to offer you much help on that.) but have had a huge serge in my desire for it recently. It helped me to understand what I was feeling was normal and also to learn a bit more about my body so I could fully enjoy what the amazing pleasures I could get from it.
the-clitoris.com

I hope this helps you on your journey!!



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Registered: 03-31-2007
Sun, 06-24-2007 - 9:54pm
((((H U G S)))) to you for what you went through in your past. It's great that you are able to move past it. Please feel welcome to ask your questions here, and I hope some of the answers have been helpful for you.


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