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Number of Partners
| Wed, 09-29-2004 - 6:27am |
How many is too many partners in a lifetime for women? Are there stats on the average number of partners per women versus men? Do the experiences (long term relationships vs. one night stands) make a difference in someone's perspective?

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But, playing Devil's Advocate......I have to wonder if somewhere down the road ms. wildflower will have a revelation and grow up. Nah, I guess not.......not when her attitude about things other than sex is so mysogenistic.
Ok, you win this one darlin'!
Not all people who sleep around, are completely with out morals like that gal.
A poster stated that there is nothing wrong with a person who likes sex, and is not currently in a relationship, having all the sex they want with multiple partners. ..I guess my point here is, try explaning that to a person you fall in love with who strongly believes otherwise
Again, I dont think people who sleep around alot, for the most part, are not doing it just because they like sex...It runs a lot deeper than that.(in most cases)But most would never admit it.
(I am not saying I agree just letting you know what men say on their message board)
anyway, one of the women posted on that message board and said something like: isn't it a double standard to tell women they can't have no more than 5 but a man can have lots and lots of women?
well the men all came back and said they would be with a girl who had more than 5 but they wouldn't consider her marriage material. It seems like *most* men want a woman who has respected her body and hasn't been off screwing everyone in town. Plus, it seems like the younger a girl is when she has sex, and the larger # of partners she has had, the more likely she suffers from low self esteem and is probably missing a father figure in her life - this is from an article I read, I will post the link as soon as I find it.
Whereas men can have a large # of partners and perhaps not have self esteem issues, but other reasons for sleeping around -- trying to fit in with friends or like the other article suggested, they are wired differently from women and care more about quantity than quality.
I dont buy the "its about the sex, and Im not attatched" line.Its about ego,lack of self esteem, justifying self worth,filling whats lacking,whatever. Its not just about the sex...not that simple. Many of us were single and unattatched..but we didnt sleep with 20 other people.Many of these people were young and immature, and as they matured, they found out whats really important. The people who never changed the behavior are the ones who are normally a relationship nightmare.
Maybe the key here is you're gauging personality using their numbers to indicate if they "never changed their behavior" at all. It seems you believe that once they've discovered relationship sex, that they should never revert back to anything but(anything less is unacceptable to you). That anybody who has sex outside of a relationship(after maturing) lacks self-esteem, is justifying their self-worth, has a big ego, and is trying to fill a void. I know slews of people who are virtuous and only have/had relationship sex, and who possess the qualities you mention. No matter how many partners a person has or doesn't have, won't change that.
Edited 10/1/2004 6:11 am ET ET by life_is_but_a_dream
I don't see how you can put a number on how many is *too many*, where do you draw a line.
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Greentea, we`ll agree to disagree here. Ive seen too many people whos past experiences really have them messed up still today. Some people can learn from their past and some cant. Many people I know who were very permiscous never learned from it. It only skewed their ability to differentiate love from sex.
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