Number of Sexual Partners

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Tue, 07-19-2005 - 8:25am

Compare women in their teens and twenties how have come to age in the 90's and the 2000's with women in their teens and twenties in the 60's and 70's.

 

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Tue, 07-19-2005 - 9:58am

Good question!


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Tue, 07-19-2005 - 11:28am

My suspicion is that we all just talk about it more.

It's true that the expectations and pressures on women to be chaste have lessened in the 21st century, but I still think that women have always found ways to be express their sexuality while seeming to remain within the culture's standards and mores'. I did.

After all, if woman's partner(s) never spilled the beans, who would know?

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Tue, 07-19-2005 - 11:35am

My guess is that the number of partners a girl has had

 

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Tue, 07-19-2005 - 11:41am

I agree and we can't forget that these periods of a more relaxed, even promiscuous, attitude toward sex have occurred all through history.

During the "Flapper" period of the 20's women stopped binding their breasts, raised their hemlines and danced "inappropriately" and suggestively and sex was winked at by society at that time. The Baby Boomers are a result of a lot of sexual activity after WW2 and not all were born within marriages! People relaxed their attitudes in the time of war and postwar.

Then we had the buttoned up 50's and wild free 60's.

There have been multiple periods in our history where the general sexual attitudes were more permissive for women. I believe it's cyclical.




Edited 7/19/2005 11:57 am ET ET by katmandoo2001
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Tue, 07-19-2005 - 2:53pm
I graduated from high school in the mid 60's and college in the 70's. My wife was my forty some (and last) partner. The girls of the 70's where much easier.
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Tue, 07-19-2005 - 8:35pm
i think todays women have the power when it comes to sexuality maybe we always did but i do know that women have the power
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Wed, 07-20-2005 - 1:35am
Women have always had the power to choose who they will sleep with.


Edited 7/20/2005 1:41 am ET ET by katmandoo2001
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Wed, 07-20-2005 - 7:04am

What about the 80s? I'm in my 30s, went to HS in the early 80s. And lots of girls were having sex then! This was before the AIDS scare (Rock Hudson went public in what? 1985 I think) and so the biggest fear was pregnancy, not losing your life.

I think women are talking more about it more now though. In all the magazines my mom or women I babysat for back then got, none of them had "How To Achieve That O!" or "Should You Bring Toys Into the Bed?" kind of articles that even mainstream magazines have now. Women go to sex toy parties openly, they see Samantha on SITC using a sex swing or talking about 'funky spunk', there is the Internet and message boards and porn has gone mainstream (more or less) due to home entertainment systems, the Net and cable. And women aren't playing the passive role anymore in sex.

But it's just in your face, everywhere. Personally, I think it's time to revert to just a little more discretion and dignity when it comes to your personal sex life and the public.

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Wed, 07-20-2005 - 8:42am

When I was 38 (I'm 54 now), I began dating a woman of 50, born in 1938. She was skeptical of the idea of a sexual revolution. She told me that almost all of her female friends had lost their virginity by the time they left high school. She lost it in the back seat of a car at the age of 16, and it wasn't with an SO. She was just curious about what sex and like, and she told me that she never regretted it. She also said that, while her crowd was the "in" crowd, they weren't a really "fast" bunch of girls.

Having said that, I do think young women today probably have more partners.

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Wed, 07-20-2005 - 11:03am

I agree. It's one thing to discuss sex as a general subject and share experiences on an anonymous sex board like this but some people insist on telling you the most graphic and intimate details of their sex lives at work! Not interested.

Overkill in the media and in the culture can have the opposite effect of making sex seem mundane and routine, too, like scratching an itch.

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