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| Tue, 07-19-2005 - 8:25am |
Compare women in their teens and twenties how have come to age in the 90's and the 2000's with women in their teens and twenties in the 60's and 70's.

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Interesting replies, and I generally agree. Something that I failed to notice while reading through though...
Not only is it frowned less and less upon compared to the old days (please note the word compared), but something I didn't catch mentioned in this string yet is that the sexual revolution of is soooooooooo accepted that women, since the subject is women of course, are now being legally married to each other in certain areas, among other things.
Its not just sex with men, but just LOOK at the porn industry by itself and then look at the different types of relationships on top of that and so on and so on. FWBs and lesbianism and porn are MUCH more of a factor than they were in the old days.
Just an added interesting thought to the equation, doesn't necessarily have to lean one way or another, but it sure makes you think twice sometimes.
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If I had to compare the two, then I would have to say that it was worse in the 60's and 70's than it is today.
I grew up in the 70's and I had more partners than my daughters and their friends of today. My daughters are 20 and 16. The 20 year-old is in her first sexual relationship with a boyfriend(and she had a prior boyfriend that she didn't have sex with) and my 16 has a boyfriend but has not had sex yet. From what I see and what they tell me, most all of the young people of today that we know are not in a FWB situation or just having casual sex for the heck of it. They seem to be taking sex very seriously, most probably due to STD's. So, from my neck of the woods(I don't really live in the woods, I live in NYC), I don't see any of what I read on these boards. We don't see any boys/girls or young women/young men remaining single to "play the field." Come to think of it, even in the 70's, although it was the "free love" era, people mostly sought coupledom. I was always in a relationship if I was having sex, so maybe it's really not all that different than today. I turned down loads of sexual advances and could have had a lot more sex than I did, but I chose not to.
I personally think that things are much calmer now than they were only a few years ago. I read recently that teens are waiting longer to have sex, and that's what I'm seeing first-hand.
So my younger days were much wilder than those of my daughters today, but they could have been REALLY wild. I made the conscious choice to not engage in true "free love" fashion. And from what I remember growing up, that was true for mostly everyone I knew. We heard about the hippies and such, and having lots of sex, but it didn't reflect us at all. It's the same here now,...we HEAR about all of the sex that's supposedly going on within the young community, but have yet to actually see any of it. I think that STD education has finally sunk in...but I think it's more than that. It simply may be that being more virtuous(for both men and women) is the "in" thing. It may take a few more years, but I think we'll see it more and more.
I can't speak as a father (no kids). I'm 57. I graduated high school in the mid-60's and university in the mid-70's.
That was the Free Love era as another poster noted but we were already conditioned by our "served in WW2" parents to seek couplehood.
My first ONS, which was my first effort at intercourse, was a disaster. I didn't perform well and she let me know it and would never give me a second chance to redeem myself. After that fiasco I was always in a relationship when I was having sex.
It was the era of The Pill and nobody thought about STDs so there was lots of opportunity. I could have had a lot more sex than I did, but I chose not to. I preferred sex within a relationship. Serial monogamy. I've almost a dozen partners and two were/are wives.
My DW's girlfriends' daughters are very casual about sx, they consider a BJ as less-intimate than kissing and usually do a hj on the first date if there is even what we would have called a date.
In my own age group I'm not sure that STDs are adequately thought about. I've had to convince FWB partners that safer sex is necessary for oral, and that menopause does not remove the necessity of using condoms.
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