Nymphomaniac

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Registered: 10-17-2003
Nymphomaniac
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Sun, 04-25-2004 - 3:31am
To put it bluntly, I'm a nymphomaniac. I'll be 19 in July, and for the past year my libido has been ridiculous. I haven't even had intercourse yet (but I've done other stuff). Because my fiance is in the military, I don't get to see him very often. Right now I have to wait till December to see him. There isn't much I can do about my libido except masturbate excessively, so that's what I have to do. Luckily I have no problem with orgasms, in fact one day I was able to orgasm over 35 times (I lost count after that). Sometimes I feel like it's a curse, if I was able to be around my fiance more it wouldn't bother me so much, because it comes in handy when he's here, but otherwise it's almost sad. Sometimes I feel lucky because I've been able to give myself orgasms since the age of 3, and so it lessens the stress on my fiance to perform for me. We've very sexually compatible, so there's no problem there.

I suppose I was just wondering if anyone else had my kind of 'problem'. My fiance is glad I have a competitive sex drive, and he feels lucky to have me (his words, not mine). But sometimes it obviously becomes a problem.

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Registered: 10-18-2001
In reply to: suirenvalore
Sun, 04-25-2004 - 3:45am
Wow! 35 orgasms in a day! You must have been exhausted! :-)

Your libido does seem to be pretty high, and it won't be helped by a lack of sex. I'm a guy but I know that my libido and frequency of masturbation is always much, much higher when I'm away from my partner.

Is it actually that much of a problem? How does it impact on your regular day to day life? Do you not do things in order to stay at home masturbating?

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Registered: 10-17-2003
In reply to: suirenvalore
Sun, 04-25-2004 - 3:52am
Well, I use a metaphor to explain how I feel. It's like I'm hungry all the time, but it isn't really a problem unless I gain weight or spend all my money on food, so mostly it's just time-consuming and frustrating. No matter how much I relieve myself, it only lasts for a short while. And I do have a lot of time on my hands; I try to spend it doing other things, but the cravings keep coming back. It fluctuates a bit (with my cycle of course), but overall it's pretty high, sometimes almost unbearable. It's a good thing I'm not ashamed of it, because the last thing I need is guilt over it.
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Registered: 10-18-2001
In reply to: suirenvalore
Sun, 04-25-2004 - 7:25am
Well, you sound like your average guy to me :-)

I certainly don't think that it's anything to be ashamed of. Maybe you should just accept it and go with it? If you can function normally in life I can't see why a high libido should be a problem. Of course it can be frustrating at times and sometimes you get so horny you think that you'll pop if you don't have sex or masturbate, but if you can do the normal day to day living stuff without problems then just go with it.

Part of the problem could be that you have plenty of time to indulge. Orgasms are fun and can certainly relieve boredom somewhat. Maybe you should look at doing more 'stuff', a hobby, visiting friends, etc, etc. Once you get out of the 'rut' of masturbating every time that you are bored you might be able to manage it better.

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Registered: 11-12-2003
In reply to: suirenvalore
Sun, 04-25-2004 - 9:00am
hi...i wonder if maybe you have tooo much idle time on your hands....i know when i'm home and bored and feeling lazy i tend to masturbate a lot too...its healthy to masturbate, i've done so daily my entire adult life and yup, some days i do it excessively...but i've realized those are days i am procrastinating about doing what i should be instead of indulging in playing with myself LOL...if you feel this is a problem maybe you need to keep busy a little more and put your energy into other things too...of course its good to have a good libido, but its also important to be a well-rounded woman with other interests besides orgasms.

good luck!

honey

    

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: suirenvalore
Sun, 04-25-2004 - 11:44am
I agree with Honey. What you describe is a bit excessive! In fact, bordering on addiction. Guilt doesn't enter into it, either. Libido, like any other interest, is a good part mental. It sounds like you're relying on masturbation to fill your life, instead of finding more healthy outlets.

What about friends and family? What kind of social interactions do you have with them? Maybe you need to try harder to find other things to spend time on. Go to school, further your education, do some volunteer work. Get a part time job. Do SOMETHING to fill your time...so that you have less time to think about sex.

This isn't much different than any other addiction.....it's an avoidance of reality. Alcoholics rely on the booze to avoid facing reality, drug addicts the same. I recently saw a documentary on sex addiction, and often it's used to replace intimacy, which is a completely different thing than sex. Masturbating at age 3 is hardly the norm, and I wonder if you did that to replace the love and intimacy that you should have been getting from your family. If you can't control it, maybe you need to get some therapy, to find out what's really lacking in your life.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: suirenvalore
Sun, 04-25-2004 - 7:14pm
Do you have a job or go to school? Do you have ANY responsibilities to occupy your mind and hands?

I think you need to try to stop this habitual masturbation because it's obvious that you're trying to fill that emotional void with sex and that's not going to work. It will never take the place of affection, intimacy and companionship and I think THAT'S what you're really "hungry" for.

Try to keep yourself occupied with exercise, study, or work. Volunteer your time if nothing else! You can be setting yourself up for future problems if you train yourself to respond to only YOUR own stimulation.

Masturbation IS a great way to relieve sexual tension, particularly when your drive is greater than your partners, but I really don't think most of us require 35 orgasms to do that. It's obvious to me that you AREN'T being satisfied at all. IF an orgasm is all it should be, ONE is enough for most of us.

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Registered: 03-30-2004
In reply to: suirenvalore
Sun, 04-25-2004 - 8:43pm
Now wait a minute. Putting all emotional baggage aside, do you think that the increased libido at this age is normal? I'm 19 myself, and even though I've never done anything, I've found that my libido lately is through the roof. Although I only masterbate 2 or 3 times a week, it does seem like an inconvience. It's just really frustrating I guess and puts me on edge. So what do you think? Is this normal?
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Registered: 10-09-2003
In reply to: suirenvalore
Sun, 04-25-2004 - 9:20pm
I have always been multi-orgasmic and like you at your age was able to have many orgasms in any one "sitting" in a short amount of time...and there's nothing wrong with me today. I've always had a strong libido, and I wasn't then, and aren't now, a nympho. The funny thing is that the dictionary describes a nymphomaniac as a "female" with an excessive sexual desire-- is there a male-counterpart for that term? Or are they just called "over-sexed?" You didn't say how often you masturbate, but as the other's have stated, if it's interfering with life in general and you're doing it out of boredom several times a day, then you should get out more as it may become addictive. If you had 35 orgasms in one sitting(could be in 45 minutes), then so be it...I don't find you odd at all because that wouldn't affect your other activities. For me, it doesn't matter how good an orgasm is, it's where I end up that makes me want more than one. It's a constant loop. Even after a powerful orgasm, my body goes back to a half-way point(my clitoris stays erect), and I just want more. They can be a minute or two apart, which is why the numbers can add up! ;-) I think it's nature's way of ensuring that the female is always "on". ;-)

I see that you have a fiance, and I think that you SHOULD continue to masturbate until he returns, however, as the time nears, it would be wise to slow down so that you are not desensitized to oral stimuli...which can happen. Orgasm is good for the body, but as the others said, if you're doing it excessively and can't think about anything else but your next fix, or it interferes with partner sex, then you may have a problem, other than that, the amount of orgasms at one sitting shouldn't be a problem as long as your bf is away.

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Registered: 10-17-2003
In reply to: suirenvalore
Sun, 04-25-2004 - 10:12pm
Right now I go to college. I do other things in my spare time, I just make time for masturbating every day.

I can assure you that my emotional needs are met. Even at the very young age of three I masturbated daily, sometimes 3 times a day. My parents, realizing what I was doing, told me that it wasn't wrong, but that it was something I needed to do in private. Honestly it isn't much worse than it used to be, except for the fact that back then I only had the desire to masturbate, and now I actually want to have sex, but obviously I won't because my fiance's not here.

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Registered: 04-22-2003
In reply to: suirenvalore
Sun, 04-25-2004 - 11:28pm
I know how you're feeling. I was apart from my BF for about 9 months last year, and during that time my libido was absolutely ridiculous! I would masturbate up to 3 or 4 times a day. Yes, I did have a bit more free time than usual, but mostly I was just thinking a lot about my BF, which made me horny. I think I found it easier to think about him sexually because at least I could get myself off...it was less painful than thinking about how much I missed him in other ways, which I couldn't take care of myself. So in that sense masturbating was taking the place of the emotional closeness I couldn't have...maybe that's happening a little bit for you too.

Long-distance relationships are hard, particularly for those of us with a high sex drive! :-) I don't necessarily think anything is wrong with you as long as the time you spend masturbating isn't taking away from other important parts of your life.

Good luck to you...hope you get to see your DF soon.

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