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Nymphomaniac
| Sun, 04-25-2004 - 3:31am |
To put it bluntly, I'm a nymphomaniac. I'll be 19 in July, and for the past year my libido has been ridiculous. I haven't even had intercourse yet (but I've done other stuff). Because my fiance is in the military, I don't get to see him very often. Right now I have to wait till December to see him. There isn't much I can do about my libido except masturbate excessively, so that's what I have to do. Luckily I have no problem with orgasms, in fact one day I was able to orgasm over 35 times (I lost count after that). Sometimes I feel like it's a curse, if I was able to be around my fiance more it wouldn't bother me so much, because it comes in handy when he's here, but otherwise it's almost sad. Sometimes I feel lucky because I've been able to give myself orgasms since the age of 3, and so it lessens the stress on my fiance to perform for me. We've very sexually compatible, so there's no problem there.
I suppose I was just wondering if anyone else had my kind of 'problem'. My fiance is glad I have a competitive sex drive, and he feels lucky to have me (his words, not mine). But sometimes it obviously becomes a problem.

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Your libido does seem to be pretty high, and it won't be helped by a lack of sex. I'm a guy but I know that my libido and frequency of masturbation is always much, much higher when I'm away from my partner.
Is it actually that much of a problem? How does it impact on your regular day to day life? Do you not do things in order to stay at home masturbating?
I certainly don't think that it's anything to be ashamed of. Maybe you should just accept it and go with it? If you can function normally in life I can't see why a high libido should be a problem. Of course it can be frustrating at times and sometimes you get so horny you think that you'll pop if you don't have sex or masturbate, but if you can do the normal day to day living stuff without problems then just go with it.
Part of the problem could be that you have plenty of time to indulge. Orgasms are fun and can certainly relieve boredom somewhat. Maybe you should look at doing more 'stuff', a hobby, visiting friends, etc, etc. Once you get out of the 'rut' of masturbating every time that you are bored you might be able to manage it better.
good luck!
honey
What about friends and family? What kind of social interactions do you have with them? Maybe you need to try harder to find other things to spend time on. Go to school, further your education, do some volunteer work. Get a part time job. Do SOMETHING to fill your time...so that you have less time to think about sex.
This isn't much different than any other addiction.....it's an avoidance of reality. Alcoholics rely on the booze to avoid facing reality, drug addicts the same. I recently saw a documentary on sex addiction, and often it's used to replace intimacy, which is a completely different thing than sex. Masturbating at age 3 is hardly the norm, and I wonder if you did that to replace the love and intimacy that you should have been getting from your family. If you can't control it, maybe you need to get some therapy, to find out what's really lacking in your life.
I think you need to try to stop this habitual masturbation because it's obvious that you're trying to fill that emotional void with sex and that's not going to work. It will never take the place of affection, intimacy and companionship and I think THAT'S what you're really "hungry" for.
Try to keep yourself occupied with exercise, study, or work. Volunteer your time if nothing else! You can be setting yourself up for future problems if you train yourself to respond to only YOUR own stimulation.
Masturbation IS a great way to relieve sexual tension, particularly when your drive is greater than your partners, but I really don't think most of us require 35 orgasms to do that. It's obvious to me that you AREN'T being satisfied at all. IF an orgasm is all it should be, ONE is enough for most of us.
I see that you have a fiance, and I think that you SHOULD continue to masturbate until he returns, however, as the time nears, it would be wise to slow down so that you are not desensitized to oral stimuli...which can happen. Orgasm is good for the body, but as the others said, if you're doing it excessively and can't think about anything else but your next fix, or it interferes with partner sex, then you may have a problem, other than that, the amount of orgasms at one sitting shouldn't be a problem as long as your bf is away.
I can assure you that my emotional needs are met. Even at the very young age of three I masturbated daily, sometimes 3 times a day. My parents, realizing what I was doing, told me that it wasn't wrong, but that it was something I needed to do in private. Honestly it isn't much worse than it used to be, except for the fact that back then I only had the desire to masturbate, and now I actually want to have sex, but obviously I won't because my fiance's not here.
Long-distance relationships are hard, particularly for those of us with a high sex drive! :-) I don't necessarily think anything is wrong with you as long as the time you spend masturbating isn't taking away from other important parts of your life.
Good luck to you...hope you get to see your DF soon.
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