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| Thu, 12-13-2007 - 12:37am |
Ok... I am 18 and I have been with my bf for about 6 months. Before him I had had sex with 2 other people... one of them was just once when I was super drunk and the other was probably about 5 times when I was 16, so I had little to no experience before my current bf. Now



It is very possible to become desensitized by a vibrator, and to start needing the vibration in order to get there, so if that's a concern and you still want to be able to orgasm using your fingers, maybe try mixing it up and don't use the vibe every time you masturbate.
Welcome to the board, Morgan.
I agree with the advice Steve has given you so far, but I wanted to add that making an orgasm a goal can work against you. You need to relax and enjoy the sensations, and you will be more likely to have an orgasm. Also, while it is possible to become dependent on a vibe to get off, many women never experience an orgasm during penetration alone.
Since you were able to use your fingers in the past, have you tried to use them during intercourse to stimulate your clitoris? (Or has your BF used his?) Just try to mix up different things (the vibe, your fingers, oral, etc.), and enjoy the pleasure that each of them brings. Also, feel free to fantasize even while having sex. Fantasizing will help to keep your arousal high and your mind busy (in a good way)!
Here are a few articles that you might also find helpful:
"Why are my orgasms more intense during masturbation?"
http://magazines.ivillage.com/cosmopolitan/experts/carnal/qas/0,,638353_634298,00.html
Bad Vibrations: Am I dependent on a vibrator?
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sextaboos/0,,83v0,00.html
Why can’t I have an Orgasm?
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sexorgasm/0,,drruth_qr4q,00.html
Everything You Want to Know about Orgasms
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sexorgasm/0,,traceycox_c4qgbvt5,00.html
Of course, you can keep posting questions here, but you might also want to visit the website, www.the-clitoris.com. There's tons of information there about your anatomy and how it responds to stimulation.
Keep us posted on your progress, and feel free to join in the discussions any time you would like.
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