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| Mon, 11-08-2004 - 1:02pm |
Good afternoon everyone - I don't know how to pose this question except just to say it...How much should your 'first time' hurt? And past the inital uncofortableness (a real word??) of insertion should it continue to hurt? The reason I'm asking is this past weekend my boyfriend and I were about to have intercourse and it just hurt so bad, we had to stop. Am I psyching myself out thinking it's a much bigger deal than it is and therefore making it hurt worse. Or should I be concerned? Thanks your help with this very intimate situation.

Unfortunately it's not easy to relax when you are having sex for the first time. Foreplay and taking your time is the solution. A bottle of lubricant is very useful. But the key is to relax and be comfortable - easier said than done unfortunately! :-)
You have control over foreplay and lubrication, but it's pretty hard to relax the first few times.....and being nervous will definitely cut down on lubrication and will prevent the vaginal muscles from being loose enough to accept a penis.
So, take lots of time for foreplay.....have some lubricant handy, and just try. There's no need to continue if it's painful, because that will just make you that much MORE nervous the next time. Relax.....and if it doesn't work.....just stop, and try again another time. You have a whole lifetime ahead of you for it......it doesn't HAVE to happen today.
Be careful with the lubricant......if you use too much, it can get very sloppy....a little goes a long way! Enjoy!
hope this helps xSx