OK, darn it, now I'm really confused
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| Tue, 08-21-2007 - 12:01am |
In a recent response to one of my responses regarding penis size, Misty Mae alluded to how she can remember where a man has been deep inside her. I was, like, whoa! Because in a recent article I read (don’t remember where, exactly), it concluded that there were so few nerve ending in the deeper regions of the vaginal canal that surgery could be done there without anesthetic. I was always under the assumption that deeper was not necessarily better for this very reason — along with the oft-mentioned painful jabs against the cervix.
But now I don’t what to think.
Furthermore, I understand that the vagina is only about four inches long. Now this is going to sound ridiculous, but I don't get it. I have seen numerous times on video and in pictures, a woman taking a man — at 6, 7, even 8 inches — all the way. How is this possible? I have no personal experience with this, because my penis tops out at 5” on a very good day. Is there some secret space or pocket back there or something? And can you actually feel it? Or is it "pressure" you feel?
Just wondering. I’m confused on several fronts, here. Are there women who can help me on these things? Thanks!

You're confusing "nerve endings" as in "feeling friction" with Pain. No doctor would touch MINE without anesthetic! And the pain from hitting the cervix is PAIN...and the cervix is the end of the vagina.
The vagina can "expand" in the same way that the penis does......but for a different reason. The penis expands because it's engorged with blood when it's aroused......the vagina expands because the "involuntary" muscles inside it relax around the circumference as well as the depth when a woman is aroused properly.
Of course there are "size queens" who aren't satisfied with anything but a huge penis, but the majority of women don't care about size that much.......because the majority of their pleasure comes from clitoral stimulation. Your 5" is perfectly adequate for most women......and it's in the average range. Of course no one wants a man with a 2" penis.....but most women would run screaming if they saw a 12" one, too. Average is good. It gets the job done.
I'm sure you've heard the old saying: "it's not what he's got, but what he does with it....and all the other tools at his disposal".
My DH was a Marine.....his favorite saying is "It is not the size of the weapon, but the fury of the attack"
KIM (37) proud wife to ERIK (44)
Echoing what Sakura said and I also agree with her, no doctor is doing any surgery deep inside of me without anesthetic.
"... Misty Mae alluded to how she can remember where a man has been deep inside her ..."
If your cervix is being repetitively bumped, especially for a long time or frequently, you will remember it for a couple of days. It's likely bruised, and you can feel that for some time.
Depending on the position of the female body, the vaginal canal will vary somewhat. There are positions where it is elongated. If you look at a diagram, you will also see that there is some room on either side of the cervix, that again, depending on the position can provide space for a penis too. As for the feeling in the vagina, the part of the canal between the g-spot and the cervix doesn't have a great deal of feeling, although you can feel pressure. I definitely wouldn't let someone perform surgery with no numbing though!
I know that I have had lovers who do not hit my cervix every time, yet they have been over 5". When bodies are put together, they don't necessarily fit "flush", so when there is an 8" penis, it's not all in there. There is also some give, in both the male and female body. An 8" dildo will not fit the same as an 8" penis because of this.
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I liked the addendum to ... It's not the size of the boat, it's the motion of the ocean, ... "but it takes a long time to get to England in a row boat."
I have never ever ever ever (I think! LOL) had a problem giving a woman an orgasm via intercourse in missionary position. Swiveling hips work a lot better for women than the ol' in-out, in-out. So I don't want people thinking I'm another one of those depressed "size matters" guys..at least not in the traditional sense. But I had always had the assumption that women felt nothing past a couple of inches inside the vagina (except against the cervix), and some posts on message boards here have blown that assumption to smithereens and it freaked me out.
But what I had said earlier, and it's been backed up somewhat here, is that where size may "matter" is in the variety of sex available. Here on I-Village, and a lot of other sites, there are links and articles on "terrific positions" or "positions that will drive you wild" or "Try these great rear entry positions" and everytime I look at them, I am faced with the fact that they are positions that I can't do due to penis size limitations. This issue is NEVER discussed by sex therapists and the like. When therapists deal with the "size issue" they have to deal with men's silly insecurities about feeling good enough. But with all of the talk about varying positions, we skip over the issue (and I think it's an important one) of people's bodies not always designed to do those things. And I'm not just talking about penis size. Women who are heavier than their male partners probably feel just as insecure about being on top; or women who are much taller than the man making 69s or standing positions next to impossible. Not enough time is spent reassuring people that sex isn't an Olympic decathlon. But God help those of us who have enountered partners who think it is and the scorn that comes with not being able to fulfill the position quota.
I really don't know how else to explain this so that you can relate, but you know how when you are completely unaroused, and you can touch your penis, and it feels good, and how as time goes by, and you get more and more aroused (and erect), the same exact touch feels better and better? Also, you know how sometimes you never get as aroused as other times, but you still orgasm anyhow (it still felt great, but the prelude was not that crazy emotional and physical arousal that makes you feel as though your penis will burst?) Well...that's the best I can do to try and explain it. When I am extremely aroused, those same areas that have very little feeling in them when unaroused or just aroused, "come alive"!
It's really strange, but I have two types of arousal, local and pervasive. I can be completely unaroused and with the proper clitoral stimulation I can orgasm fairly quickly, without ever feeling any urge for penetration, and if I am in fact penetrated, I just feel pressure (which still feels good), but nothing like the feelings that I get when I am very aroused (mentallly and physically). I credit it to the amount of blood that "fills" the genitals and the varied areas (depending on the height of arousal) it covers. That engorgement causes increased sensitivity.
In any event, in a highly aroused state, I "crave" deep penetration. The good news is that this "feel good spot" isn't that far up, as I can reach it with my own middle finger (which is all of about 4"), so don't fret.
I can attest that I do have "feelings" farther back than the vaginal opening and g-spot. However, they differ depending on the height of arousal. It's no different than how your penis feels due to differing heights of arousal.
Hope that helps... ;-)
Edited 8/21/2007 10:17 pm ET by rain_dancer_iam
Wow .. excellent description rain-dancer and I concur completely. I couldn't have described myself better than this description you wrote on what you feel.
Personally the best lover I ever had is an average 5" and I am with him now and plan on spending the rest of my life with him. This is after being married to four different men that were one and all, over average size (7" to 9"). So don't worry azprof, if you use it right (and it sounds like you do), it'll be good for your partner!