Okay I have a question, please help

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Registered: 12-20-2005
Okay I have a question, please help
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Mon, 08-07-2006 - 10:07am
Okay I was wondering if this is normal I guess...when a guy fingers you and you bleed..it happened to me and it never has before. I guess maybe because he was going, well, crazy, like really fast and stuff. I just thought it was weird. I am on birth control and my periods are fine, I haven't missed any pills or been late so it's not irregular bleeding from that or anything. It didn't continue either it was just right after it happened. Just wondering...???
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Registered: 07-26-2005
Mon, 08-07-2006 - 10:53am
The inside of your vagina is like the inside of your mouth, very delicate.......except that there are few nerve endings in your vagina, and there's not much feeling inside it. He probably tore or scratched you in some way...it won't hurt, but it will bleed a little. Don't worry, it will heal.......but in the meantime, tell him to slow down, and be more gentle.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 08-07-2006 - 5:27pm

And if the fingering isn't doing anything for you, then ask him to move his fingers to your clitoris instead of or along with the manual penetration.

Most women need direct clitoral stimulation to become aroused and orgasm. And since this was likely his and your intent with the fingering, at least get something more out of his efforts than damage. Remind him that just because you aren't screaming in pain, doesn't mean that he can't hurt you.

And it's always a good idea to ask him to trim his fingernails and wash his hands before putting them near your vagina, too. If you have a vaginal scratch or abrasion, he could give you an infection.