old mum?

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Registered: 01-25-2008
old mum?
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Sun, 03-02-2008 - 12:53pm

hi girls/boys


mu present bf never had kids as his ex wife couldn't have any.....


well what do you think about having a baby at 43?!


I've got 2 of my own already , but recently we had a glass of wine...too many..... and started to talk about it....


somehow I would love to have his baby, but I'm trying to be realistic - this is not the right way to go or is it?


please let me know what you think


best wishes


belladonna


p.s. I hope this was just the drink talk....

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Registered: 03-08-2004
In reply to: belladonna3
Sun, 03-02-2008 - 2:06pm

That's something only you know if it's right or wrong for you.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
In reply to: belladonna3
Sun, 03-02-2008 - 4:23pm

I don't think there's a right or wrong answer here. I know it is harder on women, physically, to deliver children in their 40s. That's something you might want to discuss with your doctor before getting too set in your plan.

Also, how does your BF feel about it? Did he know going into his previous marriage that he wouldn't be having children? Was he okay with that? If so, what has changed his attitude now?

I certainly wouldn't make the decision based on a night of drinking, but I do think it's something the two of you should continue talking about if you both feel that is what you would like.

When DH and I got married, he was 38 with 2 kids (18 and 11). We had 2 more kids. He's 55 (I'm 45) now with a 15 and 12 yo. It's working out well ;-)





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Registered: 12-12-2006
In reply to: belladonna3
Sun, 03-02-2008 - 4:31pm

There's a lot more to having a baby than talking about it over a glass of wine.

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Registered: 01-25-2008
In reply to: belladonna3
Mon, 03-03-2008 - 4:13am

hi misty


thanks for your reply


no

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Registered: 01-25-2008
In reply to: belladonna3
Mon, 03-03-2008 - 4:17am

yes sakkura - i know, all pros and cons i'm not naiive, i'm sensible, professional mum of 2 lovely boys -

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Registered: 03-31-2007
In reply to: belladonna3
Mon, 03-03-2008 - 9:00am
I think those delivery times are enough to make anyone jealous! I know for sure, I am!!!




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Registered: 01-25-2008
In reply to: belladonna3
Mon, 03-03-2008 - 9:13am
quick deliveries
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Registered: 03-03-2008
In reply to: belladonna3
Mon, 03-03-2008 - 9:16am
it's certainly possible butyou need to think about whether you want a child at home when you are in your 60s!