older men young girls?

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Registered: 05-10-2007
older men young girls?
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Thu, 05-10-2007 - 9:52pm

Why is it that some very attractive very young girls have sex with some really ugly older men? I mean, jeez Im 21(good looking) and haven't had any luck yet! Not like that anyway.

I think its just weird and kinda offensive.

What makes some young girls so attracted to older guys? Are all girls attracted to older men? And how do the older men get with such young girls?

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Registered: 10-28-2006
Fri, 05-11-2007 - 3:31pm


You'll find the right girl. I'm sure you have lots of great qualities
I married a man 5yrs older then me. I have always been the type that dated
someone older then me. What I go for is the maturity level. I have a hard
time getting along with people my own age. I've always had friends twice my
age or much older then me. It just depends on what you are looking for.
Being to nice is a bunch of crap!! In my opinion. Some girls just aren't use
to it! keep being the way you are.

kareese

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Registered: 05-10-2007
Fri, 05-11-2007 - 6:03pm

Honestly I used to be affraid of girls. Im ok now, still get a little nervous. Now I am very open and figured if I am not nice then I have no chance. I lived a sheltered life. Heck the last time I saw my mom and dad kiss I was 7 or 8 years old. After that there was no huggs, kisses, nothing. They never talked to me about relationships and um other things. I used to think that if i ever did get in a relationship that it';d probably be with someone that did not like sex(not that that is the most important thing to me). Just a few years ago I finally realized that everyone wants the same thing. But yet sometimes its still hard to try and confince myself.

Oh, well. Some people are ment to be alone. I should join the service. At lest they will except me.

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Registered: 03-03-2007
Fri, 05-11-2007 - 9:47pm

Why do young girls want older guys?

How about this: Why are older guys always chasing after young girls?

Some men will be married to a woman his own age for 20 years and then suddenly drop her just to be with a much younger girl. Men only love women for how they look.

Now why is THAT?

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Sat, 05-12-2007 - 1:57am
Hey..doesn't your other post say you want to have sex with an older woman?? Isn't this the same thing but reversed??
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Sat, 05-12-2007 - 3:08am

My XH was 17 years older than I and there are no easy answers to your question. I never imaged him that much older (which means he looked younger than 37) and once I found out, he had me hooked and I didn't let age bother me.

IMO maturity has a lot to do with it. Boys/men like toys and games (cars, motorcycles, baseball, sports). Now we girls know you guys like your toys, but the female mind says you should like us a lot more than the toys/games. You should want to spend time with us (which does not count when watching sports or playing with toys) and not the toys.

I think older men have accepted this fact and make us feel more important in their lives than their toys/games.

Regarding the attaction issue - again, I think it has to do with communication and listening to and talking with us. He joined the navy the year I was born, yet within 2 months of dating it felt like he had always been in my life. Physical attaction can't compare to soulmates.

Good luck find your love!

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Registered: 05-05-2007
Sat, 05-19-2007 - 9:41pm

Because younger females are more fertile, capable of having healthier babies and less likely to die during childbirth.

>How about this: Why are older guys always chasing after young girls?

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Registered: 05-05-2007
Sat, 05-19-2007 - 9:55pm

Therein lies your problem-- you get nervous ! Nothing turns on an attractive and sociable woman more than a man who doesn't give a damn about her. And nothing turns on a plain Jane more than a man who notices her and treats her nicely.

Its hard not to give a damn about a woman who is very attractive ,and she can appear particularly intimidating. Understand this -- and very few guys do--a woman's physical make up and her mind her two entirely different things. A woman is NOT a body with a mind attached to it, she is a mind with a body attached to it. Most guys, especially the younger ones , cannot separate the two. Once you learn to ignore the body (and it can be mighty hard but not impossible) and focus on the person-- you will find she is not that much different from you and actually quite easy to talk with. Talking to her is the first and the most important step in getting to have sex with her.

In an ideal world we would be able to lay our eyes on a beautiful woman one moment, and then have her lying naked in bed the next -- all without uttering a word. In the real world it does not happen that way.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Sun, 05-20-2007 - 9:28am

Welcome to the board fruiedplain. I hope you'll visit May Roll Call and introduce yourself to the community.



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Registered: 05-05-2007
Sun, 05-20-2007 - 1:33pm
Thank you.
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Registered: 03-12-2007
Sun, 05-20-2007 - 4:54pm

ok...if you're in college try to find clubs and groups to join so you start getting out and socializing more

what about internet dating? my college has a website similar to this that you post on and we all usually end up meeting at some point. most of the guys i dated are from that site and my current bf is from it. it kinda helps me b/c people can see what i'm like, my intersts, thoughts and i can warn them that i'm shy, but i can talk well online, so they know me more through that and if they're willing to wait around and be comfortable around me, then i usually end up liking them b/c they've been pursuing and stuff

get more confidence. just talk. i'm super shy, but i'm slowly learning to say whatever. if i don't like someone (male or female) much, i just say anything and they always end up liking me. if i meet someone i like, i just stay shy b/c i don't want them to think i'm dumb or something

you said you're too nice, this means you go straight to the friends list probably. most girls wont date a guy that's too nice. the seem boring....and nice. you need to keep the girl interested and don't make her things she doesn't want to do. many of the guys i dated would pretty much force me to mess around which i hated. i would say no, i just think i said it too nicely so they never thought i was serious for some reason

you don'ot have to date the girl right away. i think a lot of people think that if you start hanging out, you have to know right away if you like each otehr. and date asap. just take time. get to know the girls. show them that you're fun and worthy.

looks really don't matter a lot of the time. i wasn't attracted to my bf when i first met him and i could tell he liked me. but his personality ended up being AMAZING which is much more important in the long run. looks fade, personaliy lasts forever.

sorry, this ended up being a bunch of rambling that probably makes no sense.

but also, i tend to like older guys b/c they aren't idiots andn know how to treat a girl. first guy i dated was about 6 yrs older, then the others were probably around 3 or so. once dated a younger guy who actually seemed to know what to do, and my current bf is about a year older. they probably aren't dating them b/c they're older but b/c they offer more protection, saftey, patience, aren't stupid idiots about relationships.

you're probably fine from what you've said, but you just need to get talking more and confident. but seriously give online dating things a thought or look into finding some hometown message boards or something.