older men young girls?

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Registered: 05-10-2007
older men young girls?
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Thu, 05-10-2007 - 9:52pm

Why is it that some very attractive very young girls have sex with some really ugly older men? I mean, jeez Im 21(good looking) and haven't had any luck yet! Not like that anyway.

I think its just weird and kinda offensive.

What makes some young girls so attracted to older guys? Are all girls attracted to older men? And how do the older men get with such young girls?

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Registered: 04-18-2006
Wed, 05-23-2007 - 5:09pm

i have always thought that older women make beautiful lovers...............oh wait, that's a song..............

but we older women do make beautiful lovers!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Registered: 05-20-2007
Wed, 05-23-2007 - 10:18pm
It's not about others accepting you, it's about you accepting yourself….confidence in what you have to offer IS the key. Think like a man and not like a boy! When you project confidence, people notice no matter what age or what look you have. Focus on your attributes; those will get you what you want in life and in love. Don’t belittle your self worth, the right woman will see what you have to offer if you, yourself, believe in it and let it be shown.
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Thu, 05-24-2007 - 9:31am

I so agree with what you said here about confidence! Men are also attracted to confident women. If the OP of this thread feels that the women are being taken advantage of, I would also like to add that it is a "learning experience" for them. Some people never develop confidence in their life, but others have to learn what they want from life .... sometimes, that is via making mistakes. Many women are attracted to older men because they offer stability. They have already learned who they are, how to be confident, and have planted their feet. A lot of younger men are still learning these things, some never do.

While he might feel he is "rescuing" them, what he is really doing is taking away their opportunity to learn. The wants and needs of people change throughout their entire life. If someone needs protection, they need to learn to seek help too. So, if they ask for help, give it; if they seem like they might need help, offer it; if you feel the urge to interfere without their clear need or permission -- walk away, it's not your place.



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Registered: 06-21-2006
Sun, 07-01-2007 - 7:30pm
so if you were soul mates why is he your ex now??
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Registered: 06-21-2006
Sun, 07-01-2007 - 7:39pm
how old are you?
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Registered: 01-07-2005
Mon, 07-02-2007 - 3:38am
Not that it's relative to the topic, but IMO a person can only go so long without physical touching - I lasted five years with him touching me only three times in those five years. I deciding living alone was more tolerable than sleeping next to someone who wouldn't touch me.
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Registered: 06-21-2006
Mon, 07-02-2007 - 11:33am
i'm just curious why wouldn't he touch you? can you explain.
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Registered: 06-29-2006
Mon, 07-02-2007 - 3:03pm
Sorry to say, Nate, but more than one young girl has fallen prey to the charms of an "older man".
This in spite of what some would consider "less than attractive features".
What some do find appealing is that often times, the old geezer is well heeled and it would surprise you how some will overlook other attributes in order to gain access to their wealth.
once.
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Registered: 01-07-2005
Sun, 07-08-2007 - 12:40am
No idea and unfortunately, he took all he knew to the grave with him.
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Registered: 06-26-2007
Sun, 07-08-2007 - 7:42am

Hi Nate,

in my experience, most guys my age(im 20), want casual dates and casual sex. Most older guys are mature, and they are looking for something more substancial.
My last bf was 25/26 and he told me he was NOT ready for a serious relationship but was willing to casually date and asked me about sex. he was disgusting and a-hole.

but now, im dating a 30 year old guy who is more concerned about his future plans. he's finish with college, is independent, etc. and more importantly, he wants a long term committed relationship!!
guys my age seem to be scared of comittment and only want sex. that really annoyed me and the age factor didnt bother me because we have a deep mental connection and now i feel appreciated.




Edited 7/9/2007 1:35 am ET by onegirlrev