Once you go big ... can you go back?

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Once you go big ... can you go back?
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Tue, 10-18-2005 - 2:28pm

This question involves intercourse. For the most part, I've never been in a situation where I could have intercourse with a man who was very large (say well more than 8 inches). But I've heard stories from a few girlfriends and other posts here, that speak of an experience where they've never slept with a very big guy. However, then they do, and if they can take them in, sex with smaller men is never the same.

So my question is, once a woman is able to take a very large guy in, is there no way she can get that intense feeling from intercourse with a smaller man?

Are the women who have an intense experience with bigger men, who subsequently can't get the same experience again with smaller men, girls with large vaginas?

Are Kegels the key to sucess in taking in a smaller man?

***Please, no soap boxing or attacks, or size doesn't matter speeches if you don't have experiences that answer the questions. ****

I specifically want to hear from women that have gone from small/average, to BIG (enjoyed), then went back to small/average and enjoyed that too (intercourse wise).

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Fri, 10-21-2005 - 10:20am
well i think we should have a penis survey. i have 4 1/2 inches and thats small but i have fun and never any complainers, so lets here it from the guys how big is it???
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Fri, 10-21-2005 - 10:42am
going from a large guy to a small guy and it not being the same would also hold true after a woman gives birth but i can say from experience that my vagina went right back to the way it always was. my daughters father is 9 inches and i had a 7 1/2 lb baby and only waited 13 days after she was born to have intercourse and it was very tight if not tighter then before! i have recently started seeing someone else who is a bit smaller not alot then my previous and it is still so tight that it takes a few minutes for initial penetration. i have never heard of someone being so small that the woman can not feel anything, i have had 2 or 3 pretty damn small guys and could still feel every bit just as much...your vagina should close around anything inserted and even one finger i can feel alot! i can sqeeeze my index finger and i have never done kegels so i have to beg to differ about that?
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Fri, 10-21-2005 - 11:05am

I can't speak for any other woman who has made that comment on this board, Hump, but for ME, "it's what he does with it" means that the man behind the erection, big or small, is intuitive and compassionate as a lover. He wants me to enjoy the experience as much as he does. It's much less about the physical than emotional anyway. So, he's using his erection to please ME as much as himself and a woman KNOWS the difference immediately.

I think many men become so fixated on the physical aspects of sex, that they forget that the emotional is just as, if not more, important to the sexual fulfillment of women.

I could never sleep with a guy with a huge erection, just to say I did. It wouldn't satisfy me without the trust and intimacy of a relationship anyway, so it would be pointless. I completely agree with you that a long term partner and relationship leads to great sex more often than spontaneous hookups, etc.




Edited 10/21/2005 11:08 am ET by katmandoo2001
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Fri, 10-21-2005 - 11:08am
i agree with you 100% i was blessed with a little tool but have never had problems finding a fit for it at all and i know most guys porbably have more than i do so theres somethign to it right? i used to have a partner that woudl get so wet like a river i doubt she would feel anything but she never compalined otherwise all the otheres have adjusted well to the size
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Fri, 10-21-2005 - 11:12am

This last paragraph of yours Hump says it all.


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Fri, 10-21-2005 - 11:13am
My point is that you had to like this guy enough to get naked with him, right? There had to be some sexual chemistry to get to that point. The fact that he WAS skilled as a lover was just icing on the cake.


Edited 10/21/2005 11:15 am ET by katmandoo2001
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Fri, 10-21-2005 - 11:37am
Most of our regular posters here are in relationships, are in love and that does make a difference in the experience for us.. But some of these people talk about , I was with this guy once and the way he used it was unbelieveable. It cant be too much of an emotional thing for them. I think there is first time hot sex, let me rephrase that..I know there is hot first time sex. The first time my wife and I hooked up was totally awesome, but there was also an emotional connection there. Sometimes two peoples "sexual ways" (likes and dislikes) just mesh very well from the beginning.
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Fri, 10-21-2005 - 11:58am
Well, I have to say that I have been having a few problems with that issue. I was with a man who was almost nine in. and now with someone who is around seven, but i am quite sure that it is not bc i have a big vagina. i am only 5' tall and pretty sure that cant be the case. I think i just got accustomed to a large penis, and my partner now has a perfect penis, and is a better lover than the one with the larger. but i feel as though it just sometimes doesnt HIT the spot that i am really wanting. but on the same token my vibrator just using the clit stimulator works better than anything else, best $140 bucks every spent. hope that helps!
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Fri, 10-21-2005 - 5:13pm

As I said, there is sexual chemistry which, of course, can lead to sex but people have sex for all kinds of reasons, too. Boredom, to feel close to another human being for the moment, manipulation, etc.etc.etc. We don't always have sex out of physical need though. Sometimes, people have sex because they're lonely and really want affection. I think many young women have sex hoping it will lead to a relationship.




Edited 10/21/2005 5:20 pm ET by katmandoo2001
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Sun, 10-23-2005 - 11:43am

I have only ever been with one man, my husband and he is a big man, I'm talking 9inches. I have never gone small and I dont think I could. After having 9inches for 6years, I truly don't think I could feel anything smaller. My husband hits my gspot every time and thats just amazing :D Most woman say that dont climax from penetration but I do. I do every time. It might be cause my husband knows right where my gspot is, but I dont know. I can only take so much oral before Im ready for penetration. Don't get my wrong, I love when my husband goes down on me, he knows just how to do it. I guess Im just spoiled. But I really don't think I could sleep with anyone who was smaller. Guess I can't knock small men because Ive never had one. But I like my big man and I think I'll keep him :D Just my 2 cents.

Randi