Once you go big ... can you go back?

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Once you go big ... can you go back?
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Tue, 10-18-2005 - 2:28pm

This question involves intercourse. For the most part, I've never been in a situation where I could have intercourse with a man who was very large (say well more than 8 inches). But I've heard stories from a few girlfriends and other posts here, that speak of an experience where they've never slept with a very big guy. However, then they do, and if they can take them in, sex with smaller men is never the same.

So my question is, once a woman is able to take a very large guy in, is there no way she can get that intense feeling from intercourse with a smaller man?

Are the women who have an intense experience with bigger men, who subsequently can't get the same experience again with smaller men, girls with large vaginas?

Are Kegels the key to sucess in taking in a smaller man?

***Please, no soap boxing or attacks, or size doesn't matter speeches if you don't have experiences that answer the questions. ****

I specifically want to hear from women that have gone from small/average, to BIG (enjoyed), then went back to small/average and enjoyed that too (intercourse wise).

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Registered: 08-12-2002
Wed, 11-02-2005 - 2:28pm

I have to wonder whether most females even know in most cases what the size of their guy's penis is. I have never measured any guy that I've been with, even my ex-boyfriend who I was with for four years I never measured. I don't care to know how "big" they are, all I care about is the pleasure they provide me with.

So I question whether these surveys are actually accurate or not. Females may be "presuming" they know what size their man is or was, rather than actually knowing.

 


 


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Wed, 11-02-2005 - 2:39pm
The last boyfriend I had told me his penis was 7 3/4" long when erect. I have a 7" vibrator which to me didn't seem shorter than his penis, so I had my doubts, but I wasn't about to measure him and find out if I was right or not! When I looked at 7 3/4" on a ruler it seemed a bit longer than he appeared to be. I have always wondered about his method for determining his size.


Edited 11/2/2005 3:42 pm ET by xploziv1

 


 


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Registered: 07-05-2005
Wed, 11-02-2005 - 3:23pm

This is the stripper forum I'm aware of that I believe is the one you are speaking of. If this isn't it, please link me in this thread to the one you mean. I keep up with things, but I suppose I could be unaware of another stripper forum.

There were 213 votes in the poll, but amongst the ones that posted, you say that "most wanted average, some a little bigger, only a couple wanted 8 or 9, most said no bigger than 7".

Not counting posts more than once by the same poster, the ones that stated a preference were 64 posters in the thread.

Of those 64, what they said:

penis size preference stated-------number of votes
5"--------------------------------------1
5" to 6"--------------------------------1
6"--------------------------------------10
6" to 7"--------------------------------7
7"--------------------------------------18
7" to 8"--------------------------------5
8"--------------------------------------8
8"to 9"---------------------------------1
9"--------------------------------------2
9" to 10"-------------------------------0
10"-------------------------------------1
the bigger the better-------------------3
not too big or small--------------------2
doesnt matter---------------------------4
above average to huge-------------------3
The last four listed are presented as they said it, as they didn't actually give a number).

I don't see a 'most wanted average' there.
I don't see a 'only some wanted a little bigger' there.
I don't see a 'only a couple wanted 8" or more' there.

Either you are indeed talking about another forum (if so, please link it), or this demonstrates how as humans our bias can interfere in how we generally perceive something if we don't make a strong effort to look at it though objective eyes.

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Wed, 11-02-2005 - 4:44pm

Hey Been...I'm here, why not direct your responses about my comments to me rather than discuss them with Hump?

You HAVE to be joking though. UNDER estimate? WHO does that? I've never met a man in my life who underestimated anything about himself, other than maybe his weight. MEN will NEVER underestimate their penis size, though, not when when we're talking about mere inches! Your argument there is a pretty weak one.

People in general will fudge at least an inch on things like height, breast size and penis size...the things that they believe matter most to the opposite sex.

But you're wrong....I never said that your VERY casual statistical examples couldn't be believed. I said that I personally don't believe them, knowing what I know about polls and surveys. Big difference. You can certainly choose to believe whatever you like though.

And your willingness to accept, at face value, whatever supports your own belief that all women DO care about penis size, demonstrates that you aren't as quite as open-minded as you may believe.

Of course, there will always be women who care about large penises, and I've never denied that, just as there are men who require large breasts on a partner, but I believe you'll find more women who place more importance on other things. And this is just MY opinion, of course.




Edited 11/2/2005 5:56 pm ET by katmandoo2001
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Wed, 11-02-2005 - 4:52pm
Obviously, they will use the way that will give them the longest and widest measurement! LOL! In the world of penises, men believe that EVERY inch counts, real or imagined, apparently.
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Wed, 11-02-2005 - 5:21pm
I didn't say all women care about size, as you just said I do. Also, I was responding to Humpdaddy's saying women overestimate the bigger guys because they've been with smaller. I merely pointed out it's a two way street, and he was presenting only one side, and that it just so happen to be the one side that supports his viewpoint. I've been presenting both sides of the issue here. Also, I was responding to his general analysis of the comments in a stripper forum. If the threads comments supported his statements, I would say it was, but if it is the same forum, then it backs up what I've been saying about developing opinions and seeing through thoses lenses from then own, without ever trying to really truly see if it is correct. We all have opinions, somebody is often wrong, and yet it is rare anyone will try to get at the real truth. A world full of can't be wrong people, lol. I'm curious if there is another stripper forum, as Humpdaddy seems to think he and I are referring to two different ones. I suspect it's the same one, but we'll see. Maybe so.
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Wed, 11-02-2005 - 5:34pm
To make sure I'm clear, read the tread and you'll see I pointed out that Humpdaddy said that women can overestimate a bigger guy's size after being with small. I pointed out that women can also underestimate a smaller guy after being with a bigger guy. I know it happens, as it's been posted about by many guys. I agreed he had a point, then pointed out what he left out in the equation. Did you miss that?
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Wed, 11-02-2005 - 5:47pm
It's the best we have to go on. Some women are known to use their hand width to get a measurement. Also, not all women are unable to judge measurements by looking. A few women do measure with a tape. I do agree though, it's not what I wish it was. It does have subjectivity and inaccuracy involved no doubt. I would rather surveys just say small, average, above average, big, huge. When women have been with some men they do seem to have a good handle on what is average, since most guys are, and then know when they in the presence of bigger or smaller. I just do the best I can to get at the truth. It's much more than most do.
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Thu, 11-03-2005 - 10:22am

i have been with only one man in my life dh. but have a toy about 7-7.5" long and quite girthy (larger than dh). i still want and love dh inside me after the foreplay and the teasing even though sometimes i feel wide open after he pulls the toy out still look forward to having him inside me. sometimes when i want being "filled" i ask him for the toy which he loves using it on me.

kate

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Fri, 11-04-2005 - 12:23pm
beenthere, even by your own stats 37 of these women wanted 7" or below, while only 17 wanted larger than that..thats more than two to one in favor of "not bigger than 7" " This might be the forum I read , I dont know. I dont even remember the series of links that accidentally took me to the forum. Its been sometime since I read it and there were not 200+ posts at that time. I do remember many of the entries saying average was best for them.
Im not in denial that some women do want or need a big penis, Im just saying they are a minority and your stats prove that. At 7" most would say that is slightly longer than average, and not "BIG" by definition. It may look "BIG" to a woman who has never seen an 8" or 9" penis.
Also Kat is right, most people , including women, will exagerate the size of a penis,its an ego thing...All surveys where people have measured themselves have come back longer than the studies where a third person did the measuring. If most women actually saw a 9" penis coming at them they would panic..lol.
The main reason many women say size doesnt really matter is they are looking at the whole human being... For some women size does matter, and for some it doesnt matter. It would be interesting if you could survey lots of women who actually was with a man of 8 or 9 inches and see what they thought. In my experiences, the ones I talked to mentioned that too long was just that, too long...Anatomy shows us that most vaginas are not deep enough to recieve the whole 9" anyways , so what good is the extra inches? Many say if he slips just once and hits bottom it can ruin the whole experience, because she worrying if its going to happen again.

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