one-minute man! HELP

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-04-2007
one-minute man! HELP
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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 3:39pm


My boyfriend and I are both 21, and we started having sex with each other about 2 weeks ago. Before we ever had sex, we had played around including oral. Our playing around was always so passionate and satisfying I was sure he'd be great in bed. WRONG! Everytime we do it, he literally lasts about 2 minutes, sometimes less. I know he is frustrated by it, and I don't react negatively but on the inside I'm screaming. I know he hasn't had sex since he and his last girlfriend broke up which was this past summer, and she was his first partner. I have had 2 previous partners and have never experienced this, I'm used to about 10 minutes of foreplay then anywhere between 10 to 20 minutes of sex! I don't know what to do. I really like and care about him. I want to do something to fix this and make our sex life better. I wonder if he had this problem with his last girlfriend but I think that may be inappropriate to bring up. Please help!!??!?!??

Has anyone had this issue before? Any thoughts or ideas? I'd really appreciate it!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-17-2008
In reply to: mx87
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 3:45pm

Typically speaking the more often a man ejaculates

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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-12-2006
In reply to: mx87
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 5:01pm

EVERYONE has had this issue at one time or another!

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-04-2007
In reply to: mx87
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 6:20pm
I realize what you are saying, but to me the actual intercourse part is the most exciting and sensual part. I do enjoy foreplay very much and he always get me off during it, but when penetration begins, I get just a little more excited then I already was...and before I blink...it's over.
We've tried the "slow down" method with shallow thrusting which gives us almost another minute. Getting him off during foreplay then, waiting for "round 2" for penetration sounds like a good idea. With condoms, sometimes he looses his hard-on. Thanks for the input!
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-31-2007
In reply to: mx87
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 11:25pm

Welcome to the board, mx87.

I really do think it's the newness of the experience that is causing him to finish so quickly, but if he seems frustrated too, you could ask him if he's experienced this problem in the past.

Round 2 is a great option, but if the combination of that and a little more time don't help to improve the situation, here's something you might want to share with him:

"My guy suffers from premature ejaculation" (Please, Squeeze, At Ease)
http://magazines.ivillage.com/cosmopolitan/experts/sexexpert/qas/0,,696792_705900,00.html