One Night Stand?
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| Mon, 05-02-2005 - 5:24pm |
Hi I'm new to this board, but I have a question and I thought this would be a good place to get it answered. I'm usually a pretty shy person when it comes to people of the opposite sex, but there is this guy that I'm really attracted to, I don't know why because he's not really cute or fine, but for some reason when I get around him, I think about taking him home for the night for wild and crazy sex!! Not that I want to be his girlfriend or have his children, I just want a one night stand. Is that terrible or what? I've never even thought about ever doing anything like that but I really just want to do it, I've heard from friends that have done it and they always make it seem so satisfing, they say it makes them feel like they are in control.
Well my question is how do I make this happen? I got really close to it this weekend, but I couldn't bring myself to say "hay why don't you come to my place tonight" and even if I did how would I say it to make him get the hint? I know there is definately vibes between us, but it's like he's scared to say anything and so am I, but I can't stop thinking about it, and to make it worse I see him all the time, driving down the street or at different places that I hang out at. What do I do?

Will that be OK?
If you or he does not enjoy and wish to get together again?
You've seen how your friends do it, that's how it has to be done. You have to open your mouth and ask him.
That is the very thing that makes me wonder whether or not you should do it. If you can't bring yourself to ask him that, how will you feel about talking to him to ensure that he knows that it's just a one night stand with no commitment afterwards? Can you bring yourself to tell him that? What about protecting yourself? You have to protect yourself and you can't assume that he will want to. So you may have to clearly tell him to use a condom and say "No" if he's not prepared to.
And as for the actual sex act? Do you have the confidence to enjoy a one night stand?