One-night stands
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| Mon, 01-30-2006 - 4:14am |
I am a dedicated—some would say obsessed—career woman. I devote so much time and energy to my job that it is impossible for me to develop a standard relationship with a man. Yet I am a woman with natural physical urges that demand to be satisfied. Here is my solution to this dilemma: Every so often, when I’m horny, I go out and pick up a man for a one-night stand.
I put on my pickup outfit:
· a semi-sheer blouse with a touch of lace, one size too small
· a calf-length skirt with a long slit up the side
· Prada high heels
· My Wonder Bra (34C)
· Bikini briefs, a size too small to make them feel snug and sexy
· In my purse, condoms—it’s safe sex or no sex
· An indelible marker—more about this later.
Note: I never wear jewelry or makeup. What you see is what you get.
I go to the main bar at one of the top-tier downtown hotels. There I can count on meeting traveling businessmen who are looking for action. I've found businessmen to be generally well-groomed, clean, well-mannered, and intelligent. Actually I don't care about intelligence. I don't take men to bed to talk about Dostoevski or recombinant DNA. I've yet to meet a man who wasn't smart enough to put his erect penis in my vagina. One thing: I shun men with wedding rings. I realize that some married men don't wear rings, but I do what I can to respect the marriage bond.
When I spy an attractive prospect, I sidle up to him, and flash an inviting smile. This gets the ball(s) rolling. Soon we either connect with each other, or I politely move on to someone else. I don’t believe in beating around the (my) bush. Once I’ve established a rapport with a desirable man, I suggest we continue our conversation in his room. I like to be the one to propose this: it gives me a feeling of being in control. Of course, sometimes the man propositions me first!
I find it efficient to go to the man’s room. We just take the elevator and hop into bed. The sheets and bathroom are clean and I don’t have to worry about entertaining someone at my place, or getting him to leave when I’m ready to be alone. When we’ve had sex, I sometimes call room service for a snack or a drink. And on a couple of occasions, when I haven’t liked how a man treats me in bed, I’ve just put on my clothes and returned to the bar to pick up someone else!
I’m good in bed, if I do say so myself, and my lovers are always satisfied. Sometimes they offer me money, which I always refuse. I’m not a whore. I don't screw men to get money. I screw men because I want the feeling of their big dicks filling my vagina and rubbing against my clit.
At the end of the evening, I ask for a souvenir: the man’s boxers or briefs. I pull out my indelible marker and ask him to write his name, the date, and a short message. Often they say something perfunctory like “Thanks for a great evening,” but sometimes I get a more forthcoming, “That was the best sex I ever had” or “You give the world’s best blow job.” Often my lovers want my panties in exchange for their underwear, and I’m happy to oblige. Fraternities have panty trees, displaying trophies of the brothers’ conquests, and in my apartment I have an underwear tree—a plastic Christmas tree (!) on which I festoon souvenirs of my lays.
My lovers often want to see me again, but I refuse—I won’t even give them my phone number. I don’t want a long-term relationship and I don’t want to get emotionally attached. I know most women are into monogamy and a family, and I probably will be too, someday. But for now I’m content to be a girl who just wants to have fun.
Edited 1/31/2006 5:56 am ET by fannyons

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Good for you. Men have been doing it for millions of years, why shouldn't a woman?
Strange how so many career women DO find the time to develop relationships, though. I guess it's all in what you want.
I used to
Wow, a rare person indeed--one who knows exactly what they want and isn't afraid to go out and get it!
I bow my head in respect.
At the same time, it's difficult for me to connect with someone presenting that personality, especially in the world of dating--been there, hasn't worked. There's something about at least a hint of apparent vulnerability and even slight self-doubt, that can be very appealing, somehow.
Best!
E
Edited 1/30/2006 2:40 pm ET by mr_e_steubing
Well, as the old saying goes...." what's good for the goose, is good for the gander."
So, of course, women can go out and be promiscuous like men can. Have all kinds of random, semi-anonymous liasons with men in hotels, etc., but at the end of the day, or your life, whichever comes first, will you feel good about your choices? And will your future husband? I wouldn't and my DH wouldn't.
But of course, those choices are for every man and woman to make for themselves. If this lifestyle works for you, then that's all that matters. Something to brag about though? Well, again, not to everyone.
Edited 1/30/2006 5:06 pm ET by katmandoo2001
I would add that, while it's true that many men play these games, I suspect that there are more men who *do not* than there are men who *do*. Count me among the do not's.
And then, of course, there are always those pesky little things like disease, rape, robbery, etc, to deal with.
On the other hand, there is a part of me that wishes I could be in a corner of that bar and watch my DW pick up a guy, leave with him, and come back "satisfied" an hour later. Just once...
I have mixed feelings about this:
On the one hand, I think that women have every right to explore their own sexuality. If she's single, and she desires a variety, why not? One of the top ten fantasies that women have is the "Sex with a stranger" fantasy. Why is it automatically assumed that just because she desires a variety while she's single, that she will not or cannot embrace and enjoy relationship sex as much or even more? Why do they have to be mutually exclusive? Why can't they co-exist? I have many friends who during their single days(in between relationships, post divorce) had a few ONS's. They had no issues whatsoever enjoying sex within a loving relationship, both before or after, and they have never cheated on any man. Everybody's sexuality is different. Some women can enjoy the physical act of sex with an attractive man, just as easily as any man can. Some women crave variety....just as men do. It doesn't mean she can't love or remain faithful. It just means she's single, and she's making a decision to fulfill her needs.
On the other hand, there are consequences. The fact that some men(future men) would take issue with your sexual proclivities and may judge you harshly. Now, I know that I've heard that some people actually discuss their past sex experience, but that hasn't been the reality. All of the women that I know and the men that my husband knows said that they "never ask." Personally, this is how I feel about it. I feel that what you did in the past, and however you chose to explore your OWN sexuality, is your business. I couldn't have cared if my husband slept with 50 women before he met me....didn't change who he is as a person. If it made him happy or he did what he thought he wanted to do(even if he made mistakes), then I'm happy that he fulfilled his needs.
I also understand that sexuality is complex. It's not simply so one-dimensional for everyone(sex with love). My own daughters have told me that they experimented already with their friends at 10 and 11. My older daughter confessed that at 16 she had some sexual activity with her best friend who happens to be a boy. I'm sure that many women and men have had same-sex experiences during their teens. Some of us have had sexual experiences during our teens with neighbors, and friends of family, and just people we knew in general. None of these acts involved love....it was sex, plain and simple. Not everyone desires to have sex only with those they love always, and sex for sex's sake could be a gratifying experience--there's no shame in it.
And my last thoughts: STD's. Although I think that both men and women should explore their sexuality, I think that it's crazy to have sex with a partner without getting tested first. So many STD's can be transmitted even with the use of a condom. It's unfortunate, but STD's need to be respected....we are no longer in control, for they control us.
Good luck to you.
Edited 1/31/2006 10:53 am ET by rain_dancer_iam
I believe in personal choice and everyone has a right to choose their lifestyle.
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