one night stands

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Registered: 03-23-2005
one night stands
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Mon, 10-10-2005 - 1:31pm

Hi
What is your opinion on one night stands. Would you date someone who has had a one night stand? Have you ever had one?

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Registered: 10-18-2001
Thu, 10-13-2005 - 2:27am

>>What is your opinion on one night stands.

If you want to have them, then they are fine if both people want them. Just don't expect it to be great sex and it is definitely NOT a way of getting a guy interested in a relationship.

>>Would you date someone who has had a one night stand?

Yeah, sure, why not? I would have thought that 50% of women out there have had at least one ONS and there are plenty of guys dating them now. I suppose if the person (man or woman) commonly had MANY one night stands then I would have concerns about emotional and sexual health and reasons for wanting/having many one night stands. But I'm not likely to have found that out if this is a person I'm only having a one night stand with - and by definition I'm not going to be having a relationship with them or possibly even seeing them ever again.

>>Have you ever had one?
Yep. I've had a couple. Generally the demon drink was involved, but even if sober I probably would have done it. Definitely over-rated as far as the actual sex goes and even attractive people look like death-warmed-up the next morning. But it does make a good story.

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Registered: 08-12-2002
Thu, 10-13-2005 - 6:43am

I had a couple of one night stands with a guy when I was 19. First time I was horribly drunk. A couple of weeks later I was sober when it happened again. I had known him for a while, and I knew he was using me, but I just wanted him bad enough to ignore it. Didn't matter to me, it was just sex, and I was leaving town a few weeks later. I haven't done it again since.

The only guys I've been with since then have either been those I've been in a relationship with, or FWBs.

I'd have no qualms about dating someone that's had one night stands. Their past is their past. But I'd never have a one night stand that I just met in a bar one night.

Janet

 


 


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