One night stands?...or something more?
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One night stands?...or something more?
| Tue, 11-07-2006 - 1:15pm |
I know that one night stands typically mean the guy is just looking for sex, but what does it mean when the guy calls you a couple days later and asks you out to dinner? is he just buttering you up so you will do the deed with him again, or do you think he has a genuine interest?
thanks...Molly

That's the unfortunate thing about "one night stands". Once you've had sex with someone, it's pretty hard to tell what they're after.
If you think he's worth it, you can always accept the dinner invitation, and NOT have sex with him....and see if he calls again. You should just tell him that the first time was not your normal behavior, you regret it, and you don't have sex unless you're in an official relationship. That will let him know that he's not going to get lucky again.
One night stands don't automatically mean that the guy is only in it for the sex. There are guys out will happily take it if they can but are really on the lookout for a relationship and something more than just sex.
Sometimes the guy doesn't see you again after a one night stand simply because he's not connecting with you like what happens in many dating situations. Sometimes it's not about the sex being a one night thing. The sex is a bonus but if he had an emotional connection then he would have happily kept dating you.
Date the guy. Sleep with him again if you want to. It's up to you. All we know at the moment is that he enjoyed you and the sex a few days ago and wants to see more of one or both. Is it you and the sex, or just the sex that he is after? Who knows?