one nite stand

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Registered: 12-26-2003
one nite stand
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Wed, 09-29-2004 - 1:33am
Okay. One of the other message boards told me that I should just have a friend with benefits. So there is this guy I go to school with...I've known him since I was 11 (6th grade). We had classes together throughout middle and high school and now we go to college together (he is the 2nd best basketball player here and is more than likely going to the NBA). Well last night he and I were online talking about friends with benefits. He said that he would do that because he didn't want a gf and I don't want a bf. Well last night we had sex.....it felt weird because this is the guy I've known since I was 11 (even though he and I never really talked in hs and middle school, we really started talking this year).

Yea, last night we had sex. But then almost near the end he stopped and said something about he had second thoughts. He didn't really talk about it. When I imed him today he just ignored me (he WAS at his computer). Why do you think he did that? Now I feel like I am wrong even though he and I both agreed upon having sex. what is up with him? do you think he will ever have talk to me again?

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Registered: 04-19-2003
Wed, 09-29-2004 - 2:38am

Babygirl, just a couple of days ago I read on a different board

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Wed, 09-29-2004 - 8:08am

Haven't seen you around in a long time babygirl.


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Registered: 05-27-2004
Wed, 09-29-2004 - 9:31am
Do you always do what strangers tell you to do? Why would anyone tell you to get into a FWB relationship? What happened to the last b/f who used you and abused you and even tried to kill you?

So, on the advice of strangers, you approach someone you've known for years and ask for sex? I think you just ruined a friendship. Were you even "friends" or just acquainted?

What is it with you and athletes? Who cares if he's going to the NBA? Does that make him a better person?

Why is it that you NEED to have a sexual partner? What will that get you? I think you need to concentrate on your schoolwork first and foremost. Then you need to examine yourself and figure out why you're so "needy" that you accept abuse, and solicit guys for sex. I think maybe you should look into some counselling to help you have more self-respect and/or self-esteem. Having sex with a guy doesn't give you either. Learning from your mistakes and not accepting crumbs from guys is what you need to do.

After your last "relationship" you need to take a LONG time off men completely and get YOUR life under control.

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Wed, 09-29-2004 - 11:32am
Heyyyyy!!! dont knock athletes......lol