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One other thing!
| Sun, 06-12-2005 - 2:28pm |
I am sorry i just posted one question now I have another, what type of benefits do each of you get from sex? I read this article which I personally thopught was bogus, it said that you can have health benefits from sex, such as a stress free life, totally bogus since i am constantly stressed, sex or no sex. You sleep better, your more happy and so on. I want to know how you all feel about that, do you believe sex has health benefits, if so does it associate with orgasms, without orgasms would you feel sex is healthy for you? I am just curious what everyone thinks about that?
here is the article I am referring to:
http://www.tantra-sex.com/ummsummer00.html
any opinuions would be great!

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Yes, I do believe sex has many health benefits, physically and mentally.
After reading (and commenting on) your other post....I can believe that you don't see any benefits from sex. That's because you're doing it for HIM, not for yourself.
Also, the article refers to tantric sex, which is completely different than "sex". Tantric sex involves the body, the mind, the soul.....every part of you. "Sex" is for "relief"......tantric sex is a whole different thing. You may not do it often, but when you do.....there are many benefits, mentally and physically. It's not something you do to get it over with, it's a long process.....an hour or two of just being intimate and loving and then finishing with "sex". It has nothing to do with orgasms. Some women aren't orgasmic, but they can still have the same benefits. Orgasms aren't necessary to enjoy sex, they're an added benefit, IF you have them.....and if you're truly enjoying it, you should have them.
You might do some research on it, and introduce your husband to the process. He might get so much out of it that he'd be satisfied with doing it only a few times a week. You never know!
Good sex, meaning wringing every possible bit of pleasure out of it does indeed reduce stress, make you sleep better, make you healthier, etc. because of the endorphins and hormones that are released. None of that happens if you're just "doing it" for the sake of "getting it over with"!
We don't do the tantric sex thing but there are definitely benefits for me. And Dh too, I imagine. I sleep better, feel more relaxed and peaceful and feel closer to DH. The benefits generally follow me through the next day (or all that day, if it's an AM session.) And it's most definitely when I orgasm - but that's pretty much every session.
There are proven benefits to regular ol' sex anyway. Studies have been done, its not a myth or fallacy. Better blood pressure, less joint pain, stronger immune system. Who knows if it's the physical side, the emotional side or both? (I vote for both) Studies have shown that preemies who get regular skin-to-skin contact do better, faster, than preemies who are in Isolettes by themselves. We all need that physical and emotional connection to another human being. Skin hunger is a real thing.
Well, I don't think that sex has managed to cure cancer just yet, but I know that I sleep much better after sex. I know that I'm always relaxed, less stressed and feel closer to my partner after sex. I guess that a couple of vigorous sweaty sessions a couple of times a week must be good exercise too - and any exercise has health benefits.
Of course, if you're not enjoying sex (as has been mentioned) I can't see how you'd get any of the more subtle benefits like feeling closer to your partner. The exercise won't do you any harm but that's about the only benefit you'd get, I guess.
That just means that there is a statitistically measurable difference in the study subjects. Not that it will be true for everyone and noticeably so. Just like the studies that say owning a cat or dog can lower your blood pressure. Depending on the animla it could just *raise* your blood pressure. lol.
I do feel personally that I am more at ease and sleep better when I'm in a satisfying sexual relationship.
Greenteabag,
Hi, what you said makes sense to me now, since i am getting into the whole act, the chemicals that are released, aren't releasing for me, basically is what you are saying. I hate to say this but I have never lost weight having sex, i mean even when I do get into sex, I don't feel destressed. Sex has a way of giving me headaches and stressing me out more then anything. I never felt the way you guys do when having sex with anyone?
i discussed tantric sex with my husband and said it's only for the women who actually like sex! he left the room after that! OOPS!
Jessica
wow must be nice, see I don't get the i feel closer to my husband out of it either, and he says he doesn't feel closer to me either, but that's good for you. I think I am just an odd duck.
Jessica
Thanks, see that is true, i have never had what you guys are describing with anyone though, never had the connection to someone through sex, i always took it for granted, which is probably why I never managed the whole orgasm experience either. See because of my past sex has never been anything to but sex. It's an act to me, that does nothing for me, and never has, while the other person is satisfied and gets off. When my husband and I engage in sex, it's rough, and done pretty quickly, then I get out of bed and so does he and go on with our day. we don't cuddle, I personally never got the whole cuddling thing, we just get up and leave. Sex is not really a workout for me Tae bo is a workout, sex is not. Mostly we do it doggy and missionary, that's basically it, i found i don't like women on top, because he says i don't do it well enough. so i quite with that position. anyhow, it says sex helps with depression, but i have to say what greenteabag told me it's because of the chemical released, that helps with the benefits. I am not saying i have never enjoyed sex, i have about once a month I really get into it, and also during that time of month. My husband doesn't like to do it, because it grosses him out and it's a bit messy. I can see that though.
i just wanted to know how everyone felt about this subject, thanks for replying!
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