One testicle?

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Registered: 03-24-2007
One testicle?
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Sat, 03-24-2007 - 12:47am

My boyfriend and I have been having sex for around 6 months now, but just recently I have started giving him oral. The first few times, I was trying out all the tips and tricks I've heard about, and decided to go further south and lick around his testicles, which he really enjoyed...Since then, I've been paying more attention to detail, making myself more familiar with oral sex, and the past few times, I've noticed that he's either got small testicles, or only has one.

I've looked up different pictures to compare, but none look similar. I remember actually taking one into my mouth, and then slowly moving on to the other...but I couldn't seem to find it, so I discreetly moved on. This has been in the back of my mind bothering me for a few weeks. I've even had dreams where he confessed to me that he had only one testicle...He also has delayed ejaculation, which...seems to me like this could be a reason. It's extremely delayed, like 2 or 3 straight hours of intercourse before orgasm.

I've read that it's common for guys to only have one, or only one descended. I just don't want to worry over something that may not be true. Should I ask him about it?? I feel like if I brought it up...and it wasn't true, that he would feel insulted, like I was saying he has tiny balls or something, I don't want to hurt him. We already have a difficult time with the delayed orgasm issue. Would there be a way to figure it out WITHOUT asking him?

It seems that balls are a really sensitive topic...I don't want to make him self-conscious.

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Registered: 12-12-2006
Sat, 03-24-2007 - 2:05am

You've got two separate "issues" going on. Whether or not he has one testicle, or one down and one undescended......it's not UNcommon. If you don't feel two of them with your hands, then that's the way he is. You should be able to feel two if there are two. If you do a search on "missing testicle" there are several entries....here's one of them:
http://www.embarrassingproblems.co.uk/testicle_c.htm
If he does have only one testicle, then he knows it, and he knows you'll notice it, so I see nothing wrong with asking him about it. Simply tell him that you noticed only one. He may say "uh yeah" and not want to talk about it, or he may tell you about it....if he's never seen a doctor about it, maybe he should, according to this article.

That has nothing to do with him not being able to finish, or taking forever to finish, unless he has another malformation in his genitals. Whether it's a physical reason, or an emotional reason, that's got to be hard on you, and if you're getting tired, or sore, then you have to tell him to stop.....then he can finish himself by hand, or you can do it manually or orally.

If you can get him to see an Urologist, then maybe he can talk to him about the delayed ejaculation, too.

It would be no different than him asking you about something on your body. If you two have a good relationship, then you should be able to discuss anything like that without getting upset. It's certainly not unusual for a g/f to be curious about it.