Open Marriage? Would you

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Registered: 10-29-2005
Open Marriage? Would you
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Sat, 02-18-2006 - 11:43am

Open Marriage? Would you



  • like one?
  • have one?
  • tried it did not like?
  • Allow mate to have one but not you?
  • you have one but never allow your mate?
  • Only as a couple in three some?
  • Only as couple swapping?
  • Not in a Million years?


You will be able to change your vote.


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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-27-2003
Sat, 02-18-2006 - 11:55am
I don't think people should enter something as sacred as marriage and do something as detrimental as that.. It sort of defeats the whole union entirely. It's really unfathomable to me for someone to love another person with all they have and then give that something special so freely to someone other than their spouse.. I hear of a lot of people doing it but it just seems unnatural.. like a disorder of the mind.. I suppose it's alright if it's just a man and a woman but I hope people don't do that when they have families.. How screwed up would that be? And I don't care how careful you are, inevitably kids always catch their parents in some compromising position..
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-26-2005
Sat, 02-18-2006 - 12:18pm
"Marriage" by definition is a union of TWO people. If I wasn't satisfied with my partner, and my partner alone, I wouldn't marry him. If my partner wasn't satisfied with me, and me alone, I'd show him the door.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-22-2005
Sat, 02-18-2006 - 1:53pm
I am in a open marriage & it is working with effort, But then don't all good things take some work?
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2006
Sat, 02-18-2006 - 1:55pm
There are many people on the Taboos board that are in open marriages, and they seem happy with them. I know it's not for me, but to each his/her own.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-23-2004
Sat, 02-18-2006 - 2:25pm

I voted *not in


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Registered: 01-16-2005
Sun, 02-19-2006 - 1:31am

I thnk you have confused swinging with open marriage, as there is a difference. In a threesome / foursome / group experience the couple's relationship is primary. The couple participates in the activity as an extension of themselves and do not, typically, form bonds with other individuals / couples. Anotherwords the relationship is primary and emotionally exclusive.

Whereas in an open marriage, the emotional attachment is more diffuse. The couple has feeling for each other but they also develop emotional bonds with other people. In an open marriage it is likely that the couple does not participate having sex with other together, like in a threesome / foursome / group experience.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-18-2001
Sun, 02-19-2006 - 2:44am

I voted "Only as a couple in threesome" but I imagine it would be infrequent and would have to have some pretty good ground rules if it ever happened for us. I could see it being an experience (albeit an unusual and risky one) that the two of us could share and enjoy together. Just because we're married doesn't mean that we couldn't share the company of another person in the bedroom if we both want to and both enjoyed it. I don't get that argument.

I'll let you know if it ever happens and whether or not my opinion changes ;-)

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Registered: 03-22-2005
Sun, 02-19-2006 - 5:56pm
Sorry but your statement is very narrow & incorrect, To make such a flat statement preaching it as Gospel shows your obvious prejudice on the subject! But I thank you for your view point!
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Registered: 07-22-2004
Sun, 02-19-2006 - 10:19pm
Not in a million years. Eliminates the purpose of me getting married in the first place. Just me, not for everyone. :)

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-21-2006 - 9:31am
Nope. Not in a million years. My DH and I married because we value the same things and one of those things was monogamy.

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