Open Marriage? Would you
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Open Marriage? Would you
| Sat, 02-18-2006 - 11:43am |
Open Marriage? Would you
- like one?
- have one?
- tried it did not like?
- Allow mate to have one but not you?
- you have one but never allow your mate?
- Only as a couple in three some?
- Only as couple swapping?
- Not in a Million years?
You will be able to change your vote.

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The point of getting married is that you love your spouse and want to spend the rest of your life together. Beyond that, every couple has to work out what being married means.
For some people that means shared finances, shared housekeeping duties, shared child rearing duties, shared religion, shared political positions.etc. Some very conservative couples even limit their exposure to the opposite sex at work or in their social life.
For other couples, however, they retain their independence in many ways. They may keep separate bank accounts, divide housekeeping or child rearing duties, differ on politics and religion, and may enjoy a night out with the girls/boys without their spouse every once in a while. These couples don't love each other any less than the couples in the first paragraph.
And while it may seem extreme to people committed to a more mainstream definition of marriage, some people don't require monogamy from their spouse. They require fidelity. They require their spouse to be emotionally true to them, to be there as their best friend, their co-parent, their business partner, their confidante, their closest counselor, their travel buddy, etc etc etc. For these couples, sex isn't the key element of their marriage - its the emotional commitment.
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"And while it may seem extreme to people committed to a more mainstream definition of marriage, some people don't require monogamy from their spouse. They require fidelity. They require their spouse to be emotionally true to them, to be there as their best friend, their co-parent, their business partner, their confidante, their closest counselor, their travel buddy, etc etc etc. For these couples, sex isn't the key element of their marriage - its the emotional commitment."
You explained it beautifully.
I understand that it is an emotional commitment and I can agree that others have seperate bank accounts for independance etc.
However, I feel that once married. Sexual intercourse with someone else defies marriage. I personally know several couples in an open marriage. On the outside and when you speak to them together they are happy and seem to both agree with the open marriage. THey are advocates for the open marriage issue.
However, being the curious person that I am I continued to question them privately and there were as I suspected underlying issues. There is more than just being sexually free with your partner when it comes to open marriage. There is the issue of not being satisfied with your spouse sexually.
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