Oral

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Registered: 12-01-2003
Oral
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Tue, 10-04-2005 - 6:08pm
hmm most of you know ive been with my boyfriend for 2 years and i LOvE him so much,.. LATELY now he talks about me doing this all the time (oral) and i just cant. i cant even see myself doing that. I always yell at him "NO! im never going to do it! And he gets really upset. "He tells me if i do it he would be so happy and blah blah.. but i just cant see myself doing it or why i would even want to do it. in the beginning of our relationship, the first year, i allowed him to get oral from other women because i didnt care, it just grossed me out but now i dont want him with no other woman now that im sexually active with him.
But i just dont know what to do, everytime i think about it i gross out... any kind of suggestions?

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Registered: 12-01-2003
In reply to: naleiya
Thu, 10-06-2005 - 4:10pm
i asked him "if i do it to you will you return the favor?" JUST TO SEE WHAT HE WOULD SAY? right..... he said "No" LAUGH OUT LOUD. soOoO... in result. IM JUST NEVER GOING TO DO IT!!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: naleiya
Thu, 10-06-2005 - 4:44pm
In that case, I don't blame you a bit! LOL!
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Registered: 10-18-2001
In reply to: naleiya
Thu, 10-06-2005 - 7:04pm

I think that many men are happy to brag about pleasing their women - but few would admit that it's because of their oral skills. Most would indicate that it's because of their skills at intercourse and their large penis!

Somehow, I think that many men view oral sex as less "manly".

Again, I'm generalising here. Not all men are like this obviously.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: naleiya
Thu, 10-06-2005 - 7:11pm
Hmmm. Seems to me that that's only clinging to ignorance about female sexuality and biology though. A man who wants to believe that his woman is only pleased by intercourse is clearly clueless.
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Registered: 10-10-2005
In reply to: naleiya
Mon, 10-10-2005 - 11:51pm
My boyfriend absolutely loves giving oral and he's darn good at it. I must be really lucky...he's all about making sure my needs are taken care of first and believe it or not, sometimes he is satisfied with just giving me oral and doesn't want anything in return. Just thinking about this is turning me on. I also enjoy giving him oral as often as I could...our sessions last an hour or so sometimes, so oral sex is great when we don't have that much time.
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Registered: 12-01-2003
In reply to: naleiya
Tue, 10-11-2005 - 12:50am
lol.. yea. i dont know if this difference between him is because we are both african american and i know they ALL, well the younger men do not brag about giving oral to women they just think its just horrible.. of course behind closed doors its all a secret but they make sure that no woman knows they like to do it... i dont get why they have to hide it when they love women to do it.
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Registered: 12-20-2004
In reply to: naleiya
Tue, 10-11-2005 - 5:54pm
To the original poster...I would say that most men do require oral sex in the menu of a healthy sexual diet....For some men its even a deal breaker if the woman refuses...Its that way for some women also....Some women have a very accessable g spot so intercourse for them is awesome, but most women feel oral is a much better way for them to have orgasms. Dont do it if you think its gross, but remember you just THINK its gross...Millions upon millions of women will tell you it isnt gross ..its all in your head. If you think you can do it , you probably can, if you think you cant ,you are right you cant.thoughts are powerful.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: naleiya
Tue, 10-11-2005 - 6:28pm
Hump, I think one of the main reasons why she doesn't want to do it for him is because he said that he would NOT reciprocate. Well, that's enough reason for many women not to try and learn to like it, isn't it?
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Registered: 12-01-2003
In reply to: naleiya
Tue, 10-11-2005 - 6:32pm
no thats not the reason.. i just added that part where he said he wont do it back.. but, i just think its gross.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: naleiya
Tue, 10-11-2005 - 6:34pm

I didn't say it was your ONLY reason, just one.

But I don't think there's much incentive to LEARN to do it if he's not willing to LEARN to please you the same way, is there?

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