Oral question
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| Thu, 08-02-2007 - 9:03am |
My question kind of fits under the one from the lady that seems to not like giving oral. My wife seems very much like her-I might get 3-4 a year. Now, I am not going to pressure her to do something that she doesn't want to do but obviously I would love more. Here is a question I had at the end of my last post that some might not have viewed. I would be curious to get your opinions.
Oh one more question for you ladies-what do you consider a blow job. Do you consider it when you go down on him until he cums? For my wife, a blow job has always consisted of oral action for about 1-2 minutes just prior to intercourse. Is that still considered a blow job or is there another name for that? I can really only think of one sexual activity that would make my sex life complete with my wife and that is for her to give me a bj from start to finish. I have asked her about and she says no way she will do that. I do respect her wishes but can't help but still want that experience. I guess one time when she is giving me head, I can let her get me nearly there and then tell her I am about to blow and she can then pull back and jerk me off-that would be as close to it as possible and here recently, she has started asking me if I want her to jerk me off or do I want to have sex, something she has never done in our marriage. Don't get me wrong, I prefer intercourse as does she but, before recently, she was very reluctant to even touch me down there, and now, she touches me often and has even started jerking me off. If she senses I am about to cum, she will ask me how I want to cum and mostly I say via intercourse but a few times I have let her just jack me off. So, maybe the next time she is giving me oral, I can let her get me REALLY close and then she can manually go from there. Obviously this would cause a mess but if she is giving me oral as she normally does-with me lying on my back and her on top of me, well kneeling in front of me on the bed, the mess would likely get on the sheets or on me. She has made comments before about how she doesn't like the mess so this again might be a good way to make my one last sexual fantasy come true-as close to true as I will get with the wife that is (the ultimate of course would be to cum in her mouth). Considering my wife seems much comfortable getting me orgasm manually nowadays, I really think this might be a really exciting experience for myself and maybe even for her.

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You know, sometimes it takes a lot of years from "put THAT in my mouth, you've got to be kidding?" to "Ok, if you want me to, I will". And then maybe in a few more years, "bring that thing here".....
Some women have to work their way up to it very slowly. They have to be able to reconcile in their mind that it's not gross, or tacky, or low class.
As for finishing in her mouth, a lot of women are scared of the taste, the consistency, gagging or even throwing up. Until they get to experience it, they'll never know.
I went from resisting doing it, to "oh, just to shut him up"......while I was married. Of course, the "favor" was never returned. After I got divorced.....I was so indoctrinated that I did it without being asked, because I knew men liked it. It took me a few good relationships and maturity to not only doing it, but WANTING to do it. I never found the taste bad, I've gagged a few times (not because of taste, just from being caught off guard, lol) and it's no big deal.....and I would feel deprived if I was ever with a man who didn't want it done.....I love it.
I pretty much agree with sakura on this. Its a learned action. Giving my man pleasure was the first thing that I got off on about it. Then I learned to enjoy it fully and this made it pleasurable for me too. Some women never get used to actually swallowing and if you have one that does, treasure her. My SO is 49 and he never had a woman get him off like that before and actually swallow (and like it) but me. I have seen that in a lot of my relationships. So if you can convince her to do it longer and then tell her just before you orgasm so she can finish manually that's a good way to start.
Good luck pappy!
While I do appreciate your suggestion, believe me, I would gladly wear a condom, I don't think your suggestion would go over well with my wife. Reason being, you buy flavored condoms, it is telling her, hey, I want you to give me more bj's. One thing I have learned over the years with the wife, she does NOT like to feel pressure to give. She only wants to give when she wants to give-which, I have to say is not very often, but probably more often than a lot of women give. Still, if I buy something designed for a woman giving oral, I think it sends the wrong message.
Well, as great as our night escape was, we have not made love again since we returned. Granted, we had a busy weekend but still had hoped to take that momentum from our night away going. The monthly visitor is due any day so I fear we will likely go possibly two weeks between encounters. I know I shouldn't complain but can't help it sometimes. Course I have taken care of myself several times since. Not sure how my wife can go without for a week or two but I certainly can't. She thinks I do but I can't. She never point blank asks me because if she did, I would be honest and tell her yes, I have masturbated 2-3x this week. I have never understood her orgasms to be honest. By her reactions, they feel just as incredible as mine do but somehow she can go a long period of time without experiencing that. To me, something that feels that good, I can't go more than 3-4 days without feeling it again.
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