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Oral question
| Fri, 05-21-2004 - 4:15pm |
Okay, in an effort to revitalize our sex life (I posted last week regarding DH's lack of libido), I initiated oral sex the other night. I used to really enjoy doing this, and have been told I was quite good at it, but it's been awhile. I noticed I have much more of a gag reflex than I used to, I have no idea why. I thought maybe it was because I was kneeling in front of him, maybe it was a bad angle, but I just couldn't find a comfortable way to take in as much as I could. I know he would love me to go all the way down, and I used to be able to do this. Any suggestions for how to position myself as to not gag? I admit, since it's been so long for us, I was a little anxious and perhaps overzealous, maybe I just wasn't relaxed.
Any feedback would be appreciated, thank you!

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I have very bad gag reflexes too.
Christi
(Also, why worried about whether or not you're aroused at the beginning of a bj? Presumably you'll soon be!)
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That is something I like, but at the moment I was getting very nervous, and very apprehensive about it. So, all I was trying to do was slow things a bit. It really bothers me to think that all she wants is the orgasm at the end, and lately that is all she has talked about. I have gotten so bad that during I will go soft, because I start thinking to much. Am I going to make it? Is she going to get her prize? Will I get soft? Everything she does feels incredible, but I cannot focus on it, because my mind is racing a million miles an hour about whether or not I will make her happy. And a lot of it has simply to do with something you said in another thread. Enthusiasm is not there. Desire to just do it, is not there. It is all about the orgasm. Yes, I love oral sex to completion, I love oral sex as forplay, I love oral sex, just for the oral sex. But I have to have the feeling that she wants what she is doing, enjoyus what she is doing, and is getting pleasure from it. If she appears to be doing it just for me, or doing it out of guilt, or feeling that it is only fair, I lose interest, and go soft. Then she is all upset over it, and starts talking about how inadequate she is, and how she cannot do anything to please me. It is a viscious cycle that I cannot step out of.
Jeep,
I can understand your apprehension in all this.
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